How do you stop idealizing someone you barely even know?
I think I’ve built up a girl too much in my head and now every interaction feels high stakes
We’ve only met once in person almost 2 years ago but exchanged socials and have talked on and off ever since. Sometimes months pass with no contact and then she’ll randomly send me a reel or reply to something.
Somewhere along the way I became really attracted to her and now I feel like every interaction turns into me trying to impress her, make her laugh, sound smart/funny, etc. I genuinely think I’ve built her into this symbolic figure in my head where her approval means way more to me than it should.
The problem is I become hyper aware of everything I say around her. I overthink messages after sending them, reread conversations, analyze whether I sounded weird, and feel like I ruined everything over tiny interactions. Meanwhile she probably doesn’t think about any of this nearly as much as I do.
The weirdest part is we barely even know each other that deeply in real life, yet emotionally my brain treats her opinion like it matters way too much.
Has anyone else dealt with this kind of idealization/attachment from limited interaction? How do you stop putting someone on a pedestal in your head?