If you've been feeling confused about your identity
I usually don't feel the urge to share the personal messages I get but I felt like this particular one might help other people too! I got these messages via tarot and this is from my spirit guides regarding something I've been struggling with for quite a bit regarding identity. Having gone through toxic friendships and connections with other people, I spent a great chunk of my childhood and teens having other people tell me who I am. I felt I was being controlled during this part of my life and when I left those friendships/connections once I realized I felt miserable whenever I was around them I had to figure out who I actually was as a person and try to find my individuality. It was a really difficult thing to go through having to peel layers and layers of false stuff I believed about myself. And to be honest I believe I'm still in the final processes of that even now. However, I feel like I've learned a lot about myself through these years of self discovery.
What I mean to convey with all of this is please don't let others dictate who you are or stop you from exploring deeper parts of yourself. Don't let others try to control and manipulate you into someone you're not or try to make you believe you're too "soft". The softest and "sensitive" person you know is often the most bravest you'll ever know because it takes guts to not turn cold after going through tough and traumatic situations. How do I phrase this? I hope I'm conveying this right but if there is a situation that you are currently or have gone through where someone else made you feel that without them you'd get no where or created a co dependent type of relationship with them whether that be romantically, familial, or platonically I want you to know that you are capable of being independent. I know it's hard to believe that when someone has put you in a situation such as this but you are the leader of your own story. Not your mom, not your friend, not anyone. Don't let others take that away from you please. I know it's hard because you feel like you might disappoint others but the worst tragedy wouldn't be disappointing others, it would be disappointing yourself from going after the things you are curious and passionate about. Even one small step towards that one thing you have always dreamed of or interested in can make a world of a difference!
There is a strong light within you that wants to be seen that is uniquely yours. Maybe you might not know where you're going quite yet. Follow your curiosity and seek what feels true to you. It kind of reminds me of Alice in wonderland. Before wonderland, her life was being dictated by her family. Her whole family convinced her to go through a marriage with a terrible guy that didn't feel right to her at all (if I'm remembering correctly). And when she fell down that rabbit hole she returned to who she actually was as a person and found her inner light and whimsy again. And when she finally came out she was a truer version of herself. So follow that rabbit like your life depends on it 🐇.
Also another small message. Don't let social media dictate who you are too because I feel like that can be another gateway to comparison and feeling confused about yourself. I sort of went through this phrase where I was obsessed with all things aesthetics and I would try on these aesthetics like identities trying to find the one that fits. But honestly we're not characters or aesthetics. We're never going to really fit into just one because humans (and your higher spiritual self as well) aren't neat little boxes we can easily categorize. We have so many different aspects to ourselves. I'm not saying to not get inspiration from external sources like social media but rather express yourself the way that feels the most true to you and what you feel passionate about! People don't really talk about this much in spiritual spaces but I feel like self expression through makeup and fashion can also be spiritual because when it comes from an authentic place it can be an act of self adornment and self love. Creativity and love is one of the most powerful forces there is 💞. I think that's all I wanted to say. I hope these messages brought comfort to at least one person. I love you and I believe in you!