Didn’t find an appropriate sub to post it on so here it is
Never been good with girls, introverted in school and almost never spoke to any during school. College started and I thought I’ll change myself and I did, I’m a lot more outgoing than I was before. But my social anxiety around girls, especially ones I find attractive dosent seem to be going away and I think it’s gotten worse recently after getting better
So a little background. My hands and legs literally shake when i try making first contact with someone I’m interested in. First date I went out during my first year, my heart rate hit 140 waiting for her. And hit 100+ regularly when texting even the most normal small talk. Didn’t work out but I think I got better with dealing with anxiety around women
Fast forward 3rd year start i get into a very short 2 month relationship (I was kinda asked out). And since the breakup it’s gotten much worse again. This wasn’t an issue during the relationship at all because i knew the person for quite a while and was comfortable around them, but now it’s come back stronger than before. I literally feel paralysed when o try making the first move for anything
I thought the only remedy is just more exposure and normalise female interaction but I just haven’t been able to break out of the shell like I did before. Any tips on dealing with something like this?
Idk if I’ve given enough info for a proper analysis on this drop any questions if you’d like