So, I pulled my friend aside, who I became friends with after being roommates for a long time. And just asked if she’s ever noticed her BO before. And she said no.
I then said look this is super awkward conversation that no one wants to have. But it’s been becoming very noticeable and it was bothering me mainly because I didn’t want someone else to come up to you first and tell you something. And then you come back to me and say “wtf why didn’t you tell me” sort of thing. So I am just letting you know it’s become more noticeable recently maybe because I understand you’ve changed your diet, been stressed with work like it’s totally understandable. I just wanted to point out when we done laundry together and I hung your things out for you along with mine. Your clothes just had a very bad odour stuck to it and lately your bath towel has a bad smell when I walk past in the bathroom.
She got super defensive and I guess tried to throw it back at me by saying maybe it’s because it’s MY clothes that smell… or it’s because I have a sensitive nose and I’m too particular on how I want things around the house (with chores and cleanliness) or that I am actively sniffing her things(?).
I responded, that’s really weird I wouldn’t be actively sniffing people’s things I am pointing it out cos it’s noticeable without sniffing. And I did process of elimination to make sure it’s not me that’s got smelly clothes as I thought it was me at first but I don’t gym or sweat in my clothes as I WFH everyday…
In conclusion, she got really upset. Said she felt violated and uncomfortable. And has become very petty, doing things that are not in character and making it very obvious she’s upset (gave my bf the stink eye and locked him out the house when he’s clearly at the front yard fixing his car). And I didn’t ask her to fix anything I just said I just wanted to give her a heads up. But her solution so far is putting her towel in her room and drenching the whole upstairs with perfume.
What do I do??? It’s just so much tension and my other roommates have noticed the smell but they just never knew where it was coming from as I share my bathroom and sometimes do my white laundry with her.
I have also recently replaced my washing machine because it somehow broke while I was on holidays…