I 22 and my bf 21 have been dating for 6 months .I always planned to move out and get an apartment scince I was 15 .When I meet my bf last year and he suggested moving in together because he wants to move out too.Fast foward to the present his relationship improved with his parents and he wants to stay bot forever for now His mom told me I can come live with them now its wise to note that my family is abusive verbally and physically its the reason I wanted to move out in the first place .I told my bf situations where my parents we abusing me I wasn't expecting for him to tell his family at all.I feel embrassed that they know now and I don't know what to do now que to the issue his mother seems to be sympathetic to my mother everytime my bf tells them what happened she always says maybe it is not what is seems and oh maybe I misunderstood what my mother ment.Now my parents called his parents I guess to feel out if they know and my bf's mother while talking to my mother made it known that she knows and doesn't agree about the abuse.
Which only made it worse for me at home.They told me yesterday that I can move in after my father choked me which I didnt tell them about btw my bf did now in that scenario he is valid because my dad threatened him.The current plan is for me to move in after 2 weeks but his mom called me tdy and told me to have a saftey net because my bf and I are in a honeymoon phase and my bf and I should take it slow because we are moving fast .She doesn't have a problem with us moving in but ahe just wants to give me advice.
This is the same thing I was worried about with moving in with him because ppl say its ok at first then when u move in they change their tune now I think she doesn't want me to move in neither of his parents do but my bf does he tells me she does but at the same time if that is the case why would she call me and tell me that.I dont think I should tell my bf about the call tho.I am wondering if to go bk to my original plan and move out in September yes I would hv to endure abuse for a little while again but it will be worth it in the end.Need advice?