Being too respectful is keeping my dating life at zero
Hey everyone. I’ve been doing some self-reflecting lately and wanted to see if anyone else here has dealt with this specific kind of mental block.
I’m 25M, and for the last few years, I’ve poured almost all my energy into my career in the creative and professional space. I’ve always told myself that putting romance on hold or wa9t tji tw tji was just a conscious choice to focus on my goals. But if I’m being honest, there’s a deeper behavioral loop going on that’s keeping my dating resume pretty much entirely blank.
I have this habit of hyper-regulating my behavior around women to make absolutely sure I never make them uncomfortable,for example fy transport publique wele covoiturage when a girl is next to me i always try to make enough room for her so she can sit comfy without thinking i’m creeping out or trying to touch her because berasmi i see bois doing this a lot or taking advantage of that, or when im’ walking and a girl is in front of me i try to get past her quickly so she doesn’t assume i’m looking at her ( yes i look briefly :3 then nhabet 3inaya ) I’m so hyper-aware of not wanting to be "that guy" who misreads a situation, oversteps, or comes off as pushy, 9a3ed n7ot fy massive boundaries. I keep physical distance, I stick to very safe conversations. and this behaviour is a result of how i was raised by my parents and which is a good think, they raised me to be a genuine person.
The frustrating part is realizing how women actually respond to this. By trying so hard to be the respectful, safe presence, I completely neutralize any potential romantic tension. The women I interact with just naturally assume I’m completely uninterested, cold, or strictly looking for a platonic friendship.
What’s even more frustrating is how this behavior actually gets perceived in the real world. think fybeli being highly considerate would be a positive thing, ema it usually backfires. Because I’m not stepping up to play that typical assertive, forward role,or the guy who constantly cracks jokes and seeking girls’ attention even ken howa mouch interested fehom, , I get the distinct feeling women start viewing this as naive, lacking confidence, or even just weak. Instead of reading my distance as respect, the translation usually becomes "he doesn't know how to make a move" or "he’s just completely uninterested."
Fama mara one of my female friends which is close to me and we can say we vibe a lot but i didn’t make any move so i don’t ruin the friendship also she was dating on and off, sometimes i help her with her study or work as i said in the creative field, mara she asked for a big favor ( Rapport PFE w some designs, i told her that my favor would not fix her problems and offered to help more which we were always doing, after PFE she send me a message 9atli you only help me because you wanna f**k with me or manipulate me? Bitch ahh women i help you because first you asked and can’t let my close friends ( even guys ) without help and saved you from doubila w if i wanna manipulate you believe me there are some awesome ways to do that.
It feels like a strange paradox bsara7a: the exact boundaries I put up to protect their peace of mind end up making me completely invisible as a romantic option. By the time I actually feel comfortable enough to make a move, the window has usually closed. Mal 7al chabiba.
W l ay tofla who thinks all boys want p**y, rod belek termi legzez fy tri9 louled yjik nhar…
Also fk it im doing what i’m doing w ely ysir avec jadom plasir.