So as stated above, my wife (24f) and I (25m) have a 4 month old son (first one), and i don't know how i feel about him. I watched my wife love him the moment she saw him and continue to show that motherly side, but when i look at the baby it doesnt feel like the same. It feels like im just taking care of a random baby and while i try to be a good dad and husband (letting my wife rest as much as possible), i dont have that same connection with my son that my wife has.
I read that its normal to feel like that, especially so because I didnt carry him for 9 months, but I feel heartless at times when i look at my son and mainly feel caring of him because it would break my wifes heart if anything happened to him.
I dont want to go to therapy before anyone says anything, and i cant talk about this to my wife because she gets really emotional. Like imagine trying to vent to someone and watching them tear up and cry because they overthink something lol.
Nonetheless, im posting here because i guess im looking for an outside perception of if other dads went through the same, and if they overcame it.
Im writing this while feeding my son and letting my wife sleep in, so if theres misspelling or grammar issues, my bad.