u/Jordan_Briarwood

My daughter has been playing on a 9U travel team for about 10 months. I've been open with the coaches that this is all new for us as she is our oldest. The team didn't come with a handbook or contract, etc.

Last fall, our team wasn't very active, so I asked what their rules were regarding picking up with other teams. I didn't know so I asked - they answered, and we respected their rules.

My daughter pitches. This Spring, her pitching coach highly encouraged me to have her pitch in rec league and travel ball to help give her more live reps and more confidence. I didn't know what her travel team's rules were regarding that so I asked - they answered, and we respected their rules.

The extra reps in rec made an amazing difference. Truly night and day. So good in fact, that she was unanimously voted onto the all-star team. The 10U all-star team won state last year and is returning 8 of those players this year so it was very competitive. I didn't know her travel team's rules regarding All-Stars and potential conflicts. I asked the All-Star coach for reference on how other girls were balancing All-Stars and travel and he said that over half of the team was on different travel teams and they were all excused from travel team activities so they could participate in All-Stars. Well, I didn't want to make an incorrect assumption so I made sure the travel team knew that she had made the All-Star team. I heard nothing back. When I learned of a potential scheduling conflict (a 1 day tournament), I notified the coach. I didn't know what the travel team's rules were regarding that so I asked - and they DIDN'T answer. The next day the travel coach nonchalantly asked if we had decided which team to play for this Saturday and I told her that my daughter had stated that she loved her travel team but was excited about playing with some of the older girls on the All-Star team. We got no warning, the next message was kicking my daughter off the team. I was and still am honestly shocked.

Honestly, I'm questioning myself here in how or if I mishandled this situation.

Feedback?

Respectfully- thanks in advance-

I'm 45 and pitched as a player when I was a kid through HS. Pitch count wasn't ever discussed back then that I remember. But, I also don't remember travel teams being a big thing or even existing. It was more like, baseball then all-stars, then on to the next sport so parents could keep dropping off their kid for a few hours a week lol.

It stands to reason that if pitch count is controlled in games, I should also be cognizant of it in practice. I understand drills are different but full speed pitches apparently need to be kept within certain limits. When I was a kid pitching, the limit was "quit being a bitch and keep slingin or little Billy over there is gonna take your spot". These days, what is that limit for each age group? limit per day per week, etc.

Respectfully- thank you in advance