Last Friday was a real milestone in my life. A massive one but seemingly simple at the same time. I went clubbing as myself, no late night though, we went to a club that has an earlier slot, where the music is quiet to begin with. My wife and I caught up with some of my trans friends, she has met some but not all of them yet.
This is the important thing, I came out to her later in our relationship. It was tricky for awhile but she’s now getting to grips with it and at the same time, I’ve opened up more and she’s noticed how I’m finding my true identity, looking comfortable in my skin and gaining confidence.
I’m not full time. However i feel that there are less roadblocks in my path. There are some. There are people, important folk, I’ve not yet told.
Back to the club night. It was amazing. My wife was happy chatting with various people there and felt comfortable in their company.
We’re planning to go clothes shopping at some point, I’m going in girl mode and we’ve been checking out dresses and other things that I’ll buy in due course.
I danced on that dance floor as a woman for the first time and I was on cloud 9, the DJ started to ramp up the music, the lights and there was a small happy crowd dancing away.
We left at 10:30 and my wife said you’re way happier and seem more comfortable in your own skin.
I even was properly gendered by other punters at the club.
Later when we got home my wife said, I’ve got a dress that’s the wrong size, you’re a 16 aren’t you? I’ll share photos of it another day because it’s a proper party sequinned short dress. It’s gorgeous!