u/InvestmentOk4717

Hi everyone,

I’m a student and I’ve been living in Germany for a while, and while I generally enjoy the lifestyle here, I’ve recently had a string of encounters that left me wondering if I’m being targeted by what some call "Hilfssheriffs" or if there’s a deeper microaggression at play.

As an Asian person, I try my best to follow the social codes, but these three incidents in a short span have been quite draining:

1. I was on the BRB (regional train) with a friend. We were talking in a very low, respectful volume. And others on the train were also talking. An older man kept glaring at us and eventually snapped: "Die ganze Zeit reden!" . It wasn’t a quiet zone, and we weren't being loud at all.

2. Today, on a half-empty bus, I had my bag on the seat next to me. An older man approached, and instead of saying "Entschuldigung" or asking me to move it, he used his walking cane to poke and shove my bag to demand the seat.

3. On a crowded tram, a woman intentionally stretched her legs out to block my path when I was trying to exit. She saw me coming, but didn't budge and gave me a look. I had to awkwardly step over her just to get off.

I’m starting to feel like no matter how much I follow the rules, some people will always find a reason to "correct" or obstruct me. Would love to hear your perspectives.

I’m a student alone here in Deutschland. When I’m in the street or Bahn I usually meet people who mean to me. I haven’t do anything impolite things. For example in winter last year when I was after shopping in Rossmann I met 3 teenagers throw snowballs to me. And once I was in McDonald several teenagers laughed at me for no reason. Last week I talked with a friend on BRB not loud. Idk if talking on BRB is not allowed but others were also speaking. Then an old man gave me and my friend an unfriendly look and said “die ganze Zeit reden”. And some people make me feel uncomfortable in little things I can’t even express.

Every time this catch me I feel unfair. I’m just alone here to set up a life and finish my study. But this f\*\*king a\*\*\*oles with their families and friends here. They hurt others explicitly or implicitly. They don’t have their own business to do? They don’t have any pressure to worry about?

I don’t have much time to think about these what makes me uncomfortable things and I’m an emotional sensitiv Person. Though there’s many friendly person but i still bored by these things.