u/Intrepid-Ostrich2226

I was a webdev for a government project. I can’t say I liked it much but IT in our county is not wide enough and I couldn‘t find remote.

We had a project to replace existing expensive ready system. Our project stayed for 2 years at dev env. I told management multiple times to do Agile, MVP, go production. There were some changes like - put this button here or there but some backend ones too. They‘ve postponed deadlines for 3 month for multiple times. After all my manager and his boss were fired and I was laid off.

How to overcome this? I‘ve seen two times that management is replaced and project fails, even don’t go prod. I love engineering but now it’s hard to me to hear ”let’s do this change” because I sometimes see no sense there.

How can I overcome this feeling?

Hi. Has someone faced such things? I lost 20kg. The issue was I couldn’t keep my friendships. One of the reasons - caffès. We were much focused on sitting there once a week. Or you also visit friend and she serves cheese, vine and fruits. After that I go home and empty my fridge.

One of them was fitter than me, then I became fitter, and she told me I am as her trainer who was “gym nerd”. I am geek but being gym nerd hurted me.

I was more people pleaser than now. Now I just can’t listen about someone’s ill friendship anymore. Kinda being people pleaser wasn’t so bad, was it? I feel their pain and needed food to cope with it.

Has someone faced such issues? You have troubles with socialization because it’s focused on bars and emotional talks.