I need some outside perspective because I’m starting to feel like I’m going crazy.
I have a friend who I used to be really close with, we still talk often but lately something’s been off. We’ll make plans together—like specific things we say we want to do—and then I’ll see them go and do those exact things… just without me. No invite, no heads up, nothing.
It’s not a one-time thing either. It’s happened multiple times now, and every time it leaves me feeling weird and honestly kind of disrespected. It’s starting to feel less like coincidence and more intentional, like I’m being quietly excluded.
There’s also just this overall shift in energy that I can’t fully explain—it feels a little “mean girl” and passive-aggressive, but nothing super direct has been said, which makes it harder to call out.
I’m trying to figure out if I’m overreacting or if this is as off as it feels. Has anyone dealt with something like this? Where do you think it comes from? Did you address it directly, or just distance yourself more over time?
I don’t want to jump to conclusions, but I also don’t want to keep putting energy into a friendship that doesn’t feel mutual. and I don't think I'm ready to have a full on conversation about it, but don't think I should even be expiring things like this still in my later 20's - in friendships.....