u/Intergalacticgem

Hi everyone. First time ever posting. I’m 4weeks postpartum- first time mom to a wonderful baby boy.

My husband & I couldn’t agree on a name my entire pregnancy.

We played around with a few names, Benjamin always being a contender but I felt like it was missing something/too common. I didn’t want my baby to go by his middle name or Benjamin “last name initial” in grade school with the name being pretty popular.

Then Calvin was suggested.

I liked it, & my husband loved it because of the comic “Calvin & Hobbes”.

I was excited we agreed on a name! Still unsure but was happy to see my husband so excited that he ordered the comics for me so I could share his love for them.

Fast forward to a nurse in labor & delivery asking us for a name, I said Calvin. It wasn’t for any official use. Just to write “happy birthday Calvin” on the board. I was in labor for 39 hours and even the hospital didn’t ask for his name until 2 days later.

I feel like I would’ve changed my mind or at least have doubts within that time if I really wasn’t sure. I was the one to fill out his announcement board and the hospital paperwork.

Okay well now 4 weeks later I cannot stop crying and obsessing over if I made a mistake with his name.

(Both my husband and I are first generation Mexican Americans and I myself am Catholic.)

I didn’t bother researching the name Calvin until now and I’m spiraling. I didn’t look up the meaning, which is “little bald one” but I mean when do we ever think of meanings when it comes to names? What’s now really bugging me is the “Calvinism” part. I didn’t know!

I know changing his name is an option, but is it really ? My immediate family likes it or so they say.

I’ve always been an indecisive person but the anxiety on this one is to another level.

My husband says we can change the name if it’ll make me stop crying but I can feel he is a bit bothered by my doubts. He’s always been a person that doesn’t care about others opinions, unfortunately I do. (Working on it)

Sorry for the long post , I’m just so annoyed with myself about the entire situation. I’ve kind of calmed down since crying about the situation to my parents and sister who all have said not to change the name & the same thing as my husband- it’s a cute name, they haven’t had a bad reactions when sharing it (I’m a stay at home mom with one friend so my interactions with other adults are pretty much nonexistent)

My baby boy is so cute , I just don’t want to feel like I failed him with his name already.

I like how the name sounds and the nn “Cal” just everything else I found out about it after the fact is bugging meeeeee. I just wanted something fitting for a cool little dude and felt like that name fit the vibe better than Benjamin.

I guess I’m just looking for some reassurance that this doubt will pass/ I didn’t make a mistake naming him Calvin. I mean I went from full on regret to now just doubt so that’s a good sign, right?

My mind is just everywhere with this. Anyways thanks for making it this far. Hoping a little corner on the internet may be able to ease my anxiety.