u/Inevitable_Night5596

I feel platonic love for friends and family, but I don’t experience romantic love.

I can care about people, enjoy being around them, and have real connections, but whatever that “romantic” feeling is supposed to be, it’s just not there for me. And I don’t really understand it either.

I don’t get how people want to be with the same person all the time, build their whole life together, share everything like finances, a home, even a bed. That level of closeness feels like a completely foreign concept to me.

It’s not that I’m against it or judging it, I just genuinely don’t understand it, and it makes me feel kind of left out of something everyone else seems to experience naturally.

Does anyone else relate to this or understand what I mean?

I’ve been consistently posting on Medium (about 2x per week), focusing on improving my writing, using good titles, tags, and formatting.

I feel like the articles themselves are solid and getting better, but I’m struggling with getting them in front of more people. My views and reads are pretty inconsistent, and follower growth is slow.

For those who’ve grown on Medium:

What actually moved the needle for you early on?

Was it publications, external traffic, consistency, or something else?

Is there anything most new writers overlook?

I’m trying to figure out what’s actually effective vs just “what you’re supposed to do.”

Appreciate any advice.