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I told my husband and he needs to stop check on my step daughter, his daughter, while shes in the shower.

His daughter, my step daughter is 7 years. Hated washing her hair so occasionally he will check on her and make sure she washing her hair, but he looks in on her in shower like opens the curtains and looks. I know its not creepy and there's been times where his daughter has felt uncomfortable like hes fallen asleep with her on his lap and his hand was on her thigh, he was asleep and didnt realize so I put some longer pants on her and moved his hand. But I told him that he needs to stop checking on her like that, and if anything to come get me to check and make sure she washes her hair. She told me today that dad looked at the soap in my hair yo make sure. He will go to the bathroom while shes in there showering and I find it weird. Im told him he should wait shes getting older and doesnt need her dad in there going to the bathroom or checking on her while she showers. He said its not weird and gets defensive about it, saying its not that big of deal. I think it is. Am I wrong for feeling this way. Is that normal?​

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u/Inevitable-Gap-4148 — 1 day ago
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How to stop getting upset at little things.

My husband does little things for his ex girlfriend. He has 3 kids with her, so were stuck interacting with her. But he reset her hatch door yesterday, and I asked him why he's doing that. Thats something she can easily do. He said why does it matter, you need to stop getting so mad at little like things. But its constantly that he does little things like that. Mind you she has a boyfriend who can easily do these things for her. And also she can easily do them herself. But why does my husband feel the need to do those little things for her? Even after knowing they upset me.

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u/Inevitable-Gap-4148 — 2 days ago