u/IncognitoTap

I feel lust is one of the least talk about topics when it comes to porn and masturbation. It's a natural human behavior/need. Yet, people talk to just quit porn, but what about when lust kicks in? When there's a need to ejaculate.

Just couple of weeks ago I was completely focused on several projects, working out, being more social, seeing great results, gaining more confidence. I had no need to watch porn and masturbate, because I was so busy and happy with the results I was seeing. Then lust kicked in little by little, until I was bored and watched porn and ejaculated. Then all that confidence was gone, I started wanting to watch more porn again. Lost the drive I once had to continue growing and working on my projects.

Sounds like a joke, but seems lust creeped up on me when I had more control over my life. Any advice on controlling lust or the sexual need? I hear our brain often uses distractions as a way to escape reality or as a way to tell us a necessity. Some people use drugs, others alcohol, others porn. Even as a way to escape boredom too. Thanks

About two months ago I was completely locked in. Focusing on several projects, working out more, practicing my hobbies, getting better at them, being more social. I started seeing great results and getting more confident in all areas of my life. I could talk to more people easily, be more bold, didn't have time to even think about porn or masturbation, because I was so into the change I was seeing in my life.

Then all of the sudden, I started lusting, more and more, until I was bored watched some porn and masturbated. I didn't think much about it, but then I started doubting myself more. When I could do things without overthinking and getting this natural high of feeling successful, after it was self-doubt, I couldn't talk to women as before, I hesitated, even stuttered when I don't even stutter. The energy I previously had, it was gone. Now I keep thinking about masturbation constantly.

Any advice? I didn't want to think of porn as a bad thing in moderation, but after killing my fire and slowly trying to get the momentum going of what I had before. I'm realizing it's more damaging to my mind than I thought. I'm just trying to understand what it does to my mind to completely shut it down. Even if it's just once, I have come to realize it's not doing any good. Thanks