u/Impossible_Split_500

I've noticed that lately, every time I watch a video or read an article about how it snowed in various parts of the Earth, comments appear from people laughing and saying "haha, global warming :))"

Basically, they want to convey in a sarcastic way that global warming doesn't exist because of show ...

Leaving aside the fact that these people certainly don't understand how global warming works, I realized what the reason for their statements is.

The reason is fear!

They probably know that global warming exists because they have started to notice the changes (for example, in many countries it rarely snows in winter, summers are much hotter, droughts are more frequent, etc. I am already experiencing everything I mentioned in Romania. Even older people are complaining about the lack of show)

They started noticing the changes, they think a lot about the concept of global warming because of anxiety and for this reason they choose to comment about global warming on any post with rain or snow. Because they are trying to convince themselves that this scary thing does not exist so they have to say it obsessively and also seek validation for their opinions to receive confirmation

I mean, if you really don't believe in global warming and consider it a non-issue, why do you randomly think about global warming in a cute post with a kid playing in the snow? Maybe You have anxiety. And why do you feel the need to scream "it doesn't exist" in any apolitical space online???

Even the fact that these people ignore most of the obvious red flags I mentioned above (droughts, extreme heat, lack of snow, etc.) and cling to the slightest "evidence" (like a trivial post about snow) proves that they are trying their best to convince themselves that everything is okay in order to calm their anxiety.

It's that classic coping mechanism when you have so many red flags in front of you, you can't stand the truth so you desperately search for even the slightest bit of confirmation that everything is okay. You don't believe what you notice, you want to believe what you want to avoid anxiety and pain.

I mean seriously, do you think it's a coincidence that these people use any trivial episode of snow as evidence (bohoo, it snowed 3 days in December) but ignore the vast majority of the red flags that always surround these people?

Obviously they choose what they want to believe because they know what the truth is

Can we at least talk a little about the trauma caused by the patella dislocation?

I've noticed that this isn't talked about enough and I feel alone.

Mental health is terribly affected when this happens :((

I dislocated my kneecap 3 years ago unexpectedly and felt the most horrible physical and mental pain and my screams were so loud that all the neighbors could probably hear me. My parents were next to me and I told them repeatedly that I wanted to die while crying terribly.

Besides the painful experience, it was hard to get to the hospital and the doctor was mean to me. He made s*x*al jokes about me because I had to take off all my pants and stay in my underwear because the pants weren't loose enough to pull them up above my knee.

The doctor didn't even help me much. He prescribed me some medicine and a gel but otherwise he was arrogant and didn't want to give any more advice until he received a bribe (my father had to bribe him but I gave up going to that doctor anyway)

What came after all this? :

• Fear that it will happen again
• Nightmares
• Flashbacks
• The feeling that my life is over and that I will no longer be able to live normally and that I will always dislocate my patella
• Thoughts that I do not want to live anymore
• Thoughts of despair
• Thoughts that I have become broken, useless and that I will never be the same again if I have this predisposition
• Sleep problems (sometimes I slept too much, sometimes I slept too little)
• Eating disorders

- Certain things that remind me of my experience trigger me and I can't look at them. For example, I really avoid pictures of dislocated knees or videos of people going through it. If I hear someone talking about such an experience in real life, I subtly cover my ears just so I don't hear it. I can only read about these things but nothing more...

- the complex of not being able to run, play sports or dance anymore

I'm better now after 3 years but I still feel like I'm not the same anymore

Virginity has no logic.

Right-wing men want every woman to be a virgin available to them. But the problem is, that's literally impossible. Because a woman can't be a virgin for the "right man". It's impossible to meet the right man from your first relationship. Especially when you're young. That's why there's a huge chance that you'll break up in a few years or a few months with the man you met at 18. And then you'll be single in your 20's just because your boyfriend broke up with you because he didn't like you anymore or you broke up with him because he showed his true colors (or the love evaporated mutually)

So who does a woman need to be a virgin for? In most cases, people will break up for various reasons and you can't control that. It's unrealistic and Disney-like to expect two people to stay together until they're 90.

What I'm trying to say is that virginity is a temporary stage of the body that you lose forever and it's impossible to find the perfect man instantly so you'll break up with him one day anyway and realize that the whole idea of being a virgin for someone was in vain.

It's like saving money for 10 years to buy a house that will fall apart in 4 years anyway.

That's why it's unrealistic. You can't choose right the first time and even if you're lucky enough to find a perfect partner, there's still a chance that his love for you will fade away one day. Because love doesn't always last forever. It's normal for it to fade away because that's reality, not a fairy tale.

So it makes no sense to see men complaining that there are women who aren't virgins and want another relationship

As if it's the woman's fault that she can't control the loss of something temporary and unique. It's like complaining that someone didn't keep their baby teeth into adulthood.

What should a 22-year-old girl do who was dumped by her boyfriend after 4 years of relationship do? Become a monk? Because many virginity-obsessed men believe that women shouldn't have the right to have a relationship anymore.

So yes, you should accept as a man that not every woman who is interested in you is a virgin because she can't see into the future and know that she shouldn't have been with a man who broke up with her before you.

We are not born with the ability to know who to give our virginity to. "Oh no, I was born and I can see in my future that Bob is going to be my husband who will be with me for the rest of my life so I have to be 'pure' for him."

Out of billions of men on this earth, you can't know which one is going to be the right one. It doesn't make sense. And anyway, virginity is a toxic concept for other reasons too, but I'll stop here.