u/Impossible_Motor2031

I (16NB) can’t think independently of romantic relationships. Everything I do is for a future partner or love. It’s all I can think about. Every time I want to do something I think if I can be loved if I do it.

For example, I want to start building muscle but am hesitant because I think that could decrease my chance of a relationship. I’m not good in relationships and don’t want to be in one but also it’s all I can think about and I do want to be in one at the same time.

I want the excitement and the love. I know everyone says self love but being loved by someone else is the lazier alternative for when I don’t feel like doing it. How can I stop thinking of romance so often?