Relationships Post-recovery
How would you or did you deal with friendships post-recovery. A lot of friends lost interest in me after they saw me sick ( fell of the face of the earth ) and others I feel made hurtful assumptions while I was down but not out. Another was a good friend through most of the illness , but crucially was not actually aware of my severity, prognosis, and how constant management and treatments consumed my life, and toward the end decided to pull away because I presumably wasn't meeting her effort and she didn't understand why I was not "growing" in the way she expected. I tried to only share relatable or exciting news and only shared anything illness related if it was positive news. She has recently started ghosting me mid-conversation when I mention health progress (e.g. "I'm feeling better than I have in years" "I got off all my meds, and I'm really excited about it") Now that I'm making it out on the other side am I unreasonable for thinking "you all gave up on me and there will be no second chances" after giving my all and sacrificing my own health and needs to preserve and continue these friendships? I don't have anybody in my life that sees it my way so Im making sure I'm not vindictive ( as my mom would say ) and unreasonable fro wanting to discard all the people who discarded me. I can never feel safe or respected in relationships that have already abandoned me at my worst. Did anybody just rekindle their friendships with people who wanted nothing to do with you post-illness? Like why would I be expected to do that??