How to help exiles when the feelings are so intense?
I underwent severe childhood trauma and have a few exiles that carry very intense feelings. Their protectors keep them very repressed. I'm at the point where the protector parts trust me, and have made contact with the exiles a few times, but it's like a volcano explodes when they agree to step back and the exile comes out. I can still feel Self, but the protectors don't feel safe letting me experience the full breadth of their emotions and pretty quickly put the lid back on.
Going slow, but I'm not sure how to help them unburden if experiencing them pushes me out of my tolerable range. I did have one experience where I explained and asked an exile to try to keep the volume down. She did, but it was with a ton of effort. Like all her effort was going into keeping control. And when I asked her a question, the volume went up, and her protector was like ooookay, you're going back in the box.
Any tips or advice? I'm working with a wonderful IFS therapist, just looking to expand my toolkit.