So, whilst we talked about body hair and I asked (so so stupidly) if something is wrong with mine, he said, and i quote "the hair on arms doesn't bother me much" and later he said, cause he was just listing stuff he doesn't really like at that point- that he doesn't really like back hair. at the end of that conversation I took him back to square 1 and asked "*is there anything *that bothers you*?" he said no. and i asked like 10 times. and he said he's sure.
I never thought about removing my arm hair, and idk when he generally said back hair if he meant mine, cause he also listed things I know aren't relevant to me, but i do have some on my lower back.
Now I feel less comfortable around him, and more self conscience than is healthy. What I'm asking is this:
A. Ladies do you remove your back hair? I'm considerind adding a pic but idk if that's weird, is it? should I remove it just so it's out of my mind? If i will remove it'll be wax (and I decided I'm not comfortable with the idea of removing my arm hair)
B. Should I bring it up with him? And say now I'm less comfortable, and i feel i always need to be tiptop before i see him? He touched my lower back and i literally removed his hand.. (elegantly he didn't realise). I try to ungle myself differently around him and i avoided certain sex positions and cringed inwardly when he touched my arm. Or - should i just tell myself he is a big boy and he should be able to handle it and find a way to shove it out of my mind on my own? And like, grow up myself and not care about his opinion so much?
I'm seeing him tomorrow and I wanna decide what to do- he's leaving abroad after for 2 weeks.
**important edit** - my main fear is that if i talk to him, even though i absolutely don't mean to mention specific parts, he will notice my body hair way more, cause i made it a thing now. and i don't want him to, because i feel self conscience now and that he sees it as bad..
Also - i feel the need to add that he compliments my body constantly, said in the sexiest girl he's ever been with, and that I'm the best sex he had and stuff like that. Maybe it should help with proportion. But at the moment i still feel the way i feel.
tldr:
a. should i remove my lower back hair cause of this? and do most woman remove it? like is it less common not to?
b. should i bring this up with him?