I’m going to keep this short.
As a woman desperately trying to find answers, then desperately running away from that knowledge, then returning to it with an open mind and patience in my heart, experiencing the stability of imaan, then struggling with the lows of iman, and all of it affecting my already strained mental health, I’ve come to realize something I want to share with my fellow women:
Stop digging into Islamic history, topics like sex slavery, large age gaps. Tjen deeply researching polygamy, male authority, strict rulings about covering yourself, certain hadiths about women, and the concept of hoor al-‘ayn. I'm saying this because I've seen so many questions around these topics.
To me, spending time on these topics is sometimes, SOMETIMES, equivalent to snooping through your man’s phone. Both can break your heart.
