When to move on?
32F dating 36M for 3 months.
He’s a virgin, I am not. I’ve had a significant long term relationship of 3 years, he’s never had a long term relationship.
He is extremely bothered by the fact that I lived at my partner’s place briefly for 3 months at the end of that 3 year relationship.
He claims it doesn’t have anything to do with retroactive jealousy or thoughts about sexual past, just that he doesn’t like the cohabitation part, because he wanted to have that experience of living together for the first time with his future wife.
However, he won’t stop asking me more and more questions. I answered thinking it would help but at this point we are spending more time taking about it than we are getting to know each other. He even wanted to see photos of my ex, but I told him no, as I felt this would make it worse.
We both agree this is the best connection we’ve ever had and we are so compatible, aside from this. We both want marriage and children in the near future and I can see this beautiful life with him.
But he won’t move ahead with making things official because of these feelings/thoughts plaguing him. I am feeling like I’ve done something wrong, like I’m tarnished or damaged goods or something. I feel like I’m litigating my past and I’m on trial and it’s just exhausting.
I am getting to the point where I feel I may need to move on. He said I need to be patient with him and that he just needs more time to decide if he’s ok with my past. I don’t want to end things, but I don’t know what else to do to help him. Do you have any suggestions, or feel I should move on?