Hi my fellow friends, today i have a question for you guys about my past relation ship, i'll describe what happened and you guys tell me your opinions.
Me and this girl from my college started dating on June 2025 and it was great, i was always a loving person to her, i gave her a lot of attention and priority, i was always messaging first asking if she could hang out and that stuff and it was going great, at the time i was invested in that relation ship and wanted it to grow, she wasnt much invested in it though, but i thought it was because it is one of her first relation ships that she took serious and she was kinda childish for her age, i didnt like somethings about her, like the way she acted with her friends like when she would start hugging and cuddling her friends and those weird jokes that when i asked to stop she would just say 'oh were just pretending to be said character'
But one day on February 5 from this year, we had a little fight over text, because she simply wouldn't answer my texts even tho she was chronically online playing with her friends and or watching tik toks (and keep those 'friends' in your mind for later) and i had a little bit of a crash out with her said some bad stuff but never something to offend her in any way, i was just saying the truth and how frustrated i was because she didn't want to answer me, we could go days without talking to each other because of that and then she just decided to 'Break up' with me, i went straight to her house and we talked a bit better there and she said sorry and that she didnt mean it, but that left me scarred, a LOT.
And with that comes the second phase, where i started developing anxiety because of her, everyday was a challenge for me because i couldn't stop thinking that she would just dump me one day, and she noticed that, i started being obsessive with her, i was very needy of her because she would never give me the same attention i gave her and i started remembering past experiences i had and i couldn't work on it by myself, im very messy i admit it, im horrible at fixing stuff imagine 'fixing' myself, and then i got worse i started being more paranoid and she wouldn't stop doing stuff that would make me more insecure, she never helped me, and she never cared for me the way i cared for her, i was always the one with the stick and glue to fix the problems and that just made me hurt myself more, and recently, about 7 days ago we broke up for good, and the reason? because i wanted that she cared for me, because i wanted her to treat me in a special way like i treated her because the way she was caring for me was worse than her friends, she had a priority to them and if you want to be in a relation ship, for me, your partner is your biggest priority, ofc sometimes it can come in second but not always.
And i know from what i described i must seem like the bad guy but, i was just attention seeking her, i wanted to feel loved and she rarely said that she loved me, she would always pick her friends and even one day that we arranged to go to the movies she cancelled with me last time because she was going out with her friends, and now here where i live im the bad guy, im in the wrong but what did i do wrong? i just wanted to get what i was giving and i didnt even get the bare minimium.
In short, she did things i didnt like and that made me uncomfortable and insecure, that made me develop anxiety because of past traumas and that made me act the way i acted
But anyways, what are your thoughts on this story? i'll greatly accept your opinions and if you have any questions you can ask me in the comments
(also sorry if the text was too long and if my english is bad)