I’ve been dating my gf for about 7 months now and it’s been going pretty good, except for the fact that I can’t get over her previous FWB.
Now for the details. We’re both 28 years olds and both got our own separate apartments and got pretty good careers going on for us. Like a month or two into us dating we started talking about our past partners and she brought up how her past fwb was MAGA. It definitely changed my initial perception of her but it didn’t really bother because in my head I kind of assumed it was like a year or two ago, very dumb on my part for not asking.
Four months go by and everything is going great. We never bring it up again, so I end up forgetting about it. It’s not until we go to a small get together with her friends and we start drinking and playing this card game and it leads to everyone talking about their most embarrassing past experiences. So they bring up my gfs past fwb and they are all laughing at how he was racist, maga, had no car, no career, and lived with his parents still. As I’m hearing this I’m just giving kind of fake laughing but judging her on this inside. Then a while later most of her friends head inside the house and leave me and one of her friends alone for a while. Her friend starts drunkenly venting to me about her relationship. then later on she brings up my gfs past fwb again and she gives me more details about how he was shitty to my gf, never took her out on dates and what affected me a was how recent it was and her telling me that my gf wanted something more with him but he declined her.
So a month has passed and it’s been eating me alive. I can’t get over how she was sleeping with someone that shares very different political and moral values than us and that she potentially wanted a relationship with this person. I can’t get over that she was picking him up and taking him back home. I can’t get over the fact that they were seeing each other for a lil over a month and how recent it was. also the fact that she lied about not wanting anything serious with him. It makes me feel like I got duped, like I was robbed of making the correct decision in regard to making us official. I know that’s a dumb way of thinking because I can’t get that thought process out of my mind. I’m like in this weird state of mind where I want to break up with her because I would never date someone who shares those political views but another part of me can’t because we are so compatible