As the title says, i absolutely hate the way people talk to my partner about the baby. We’re in a super fortunate position in which he gets 4 months off fully paid once baby comes and both of us are so looking forward to spending that time together as a family. Whenever he mentions this to anybody be it his family, friends or even some members of my family it’s always met with ‘you’ll be glad to go back at the end of it!’. This absolutely boils my blood, god forbid a man loves and enjoys his family? Why is that an appropriate thing to say to somebody? Bugs me even more that nobody’s made comments of a similar thing towards me, who will not be going back to work at 4 months and likely won’t for the foreseeable future. He agrees that it’s a bizarre thing to say but would rather just pretend he didn’t hear than say anything which i somewhat understand. Is it just hormone rage or is it really just a rude thing to say?
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In most of my IBS journey other than right at the beginning once or twice on my commute I’ve always got to a bathroom in time. Even them few times in the early days the situation wasn’t bad enough to warrant going home just needed a quick change and slight loss of dignity. I always carry some form of wipe/tissue since then just incase, which during my agoraphobia therapy they’ve been telling me is just like a security blanket. So i’ve been working on leaving the house again slowly but surely and was genuinely making such progress, the urgency was there at times but I always just worked through it and told myself it was anxiety due to not being within 10 steps of the bathroom. Well yesterday I was having a picnic with friends in a lovely park, sun shining, having a lovely time. The sweats started and I knew I couldn’t make it to the closest public toilet, tried to ignore it but I couldn’t even think straight or hold a conversation. Lo and behold I had to use a bush, absolutely mortifying. Back to square one on the exposure therapy, feel completely disgusted by myself.