u/INFJ_Fem

I grew up witnessing how she chose to break our family (6 children) for another man and doing all the things that us children shouldn’t have seen. When we were in high school, we didn’t have a choice but live with her and her new family. She made us pay monthly rent in her own house and contributed to food expenses so we had to work at a local factory during weekends, otherwise, she won’t stop talking us down. Now that I am a mother myself, I can’t imagine the abuse we endured. And even now as an adult, I still feel like I’m being chased by a generational curse she brought upon us.

Recently, I have decided to forgive her in my heart and freed myself from years of resentment. Then, I got a message from my half sister saying how she still frequently brings home and sleeps with different men half her age after our step father died. How she spent money for them instead of helping her younger children and grand children in need. We can’t speak up against her lifestyle because she would humiliate us in social media as disrespectful and we should thank her for bringing us into this world (she did this many times before). I have been praying for her that she will start her real walk with Jesus cause she claims to be a Christian. The scripture says to honor your parents, but I am struggling to come to terms with how she is living her life even now that she is in her 60s. How do I honor her in this situation?

It’s been said that choosing a life partner will be one of the most important decisions one can make. I have to be married to a non believer who doesn’t have a fear in God and who stripped me off everything before realizing my biggest mistake. The only good thing is that it led me to knowing Jesus and opened my eyes to the scripture. Everything that’s in the Bible that didn’t make sense to me before makes sense to me now. I should’ve prayed for that person. The only marriage that is worth pursuing is a Christ centered one.

Edit: I also would like to add that the believer I am pertaining to are those who are genuine Christ followers because are so many out there who would say they’re Christians but are not living a Christian life. Also, please take your time in choosing your partner. Know them well, their families, their circles. I didn’t do all these. I just go for it mindlessly. It will be worth the wait.

Edit 2: I have prayed and still praying for my husband who is a muslim to come to faith (even though all I get so far is blasphemy and mockery of my savior) and I even shared to him the Gospel and shared how Jesus transformed me and gives me hope. Though I stopped preaching to him since it’s creating a tension and I decided to live it instead. I still believe that nothing is impossible with God and if this doesn’t end the way how I want it to be, I know God has something better for me. I pray and pray that he will have an encounter with Christ and he will finally see the truth.

Thank you for all your words and beautiful testimonies. I am reading everything and I am truly inspired by your stories.