How long did it take you to make other prof friends?
New TT asst prof in humanities (jan start moved across country) finishing my first semester! How long did it take you guys when you started to become friends with other profs? I came straight from my phd and it seems like the other asst profs think think im too young to be friends with. They all hang out with each other and their kids play together and they grade papers together and invite each other to parties and no one wants to invite me. They invite lecturers (only 2 yrs older than me with no kids either) and other non TT people, so it makes me feel really awkward that everyone under 40 hangs out except me. I feel like im in high school and no one wants to sit with me or invite me to group hangs! I got hired the same time as another asst prof in an adjacent dept and i thought we were friends until i realized she sees herself as my “mentor” bc this is her second TT job. For context—- i am a decent looking, relatively outgoing woman at a solid R1. I want to feel like i kicked ass this semester (bc I did) but instead i iust feel like ive been socially rejected. Words of wisdom appreciated!