Would I(18f) be unreasonable for moving out from my parents house and moving into my boyfriends(17m)
I know this is long and probably very hard to read it’s currently 1am and I just got done sobbing from the situation, if there’s anything I don’t explain well ask in the comments and I will try to clarify, I just REALLY need advise
I’m gonna keep names and some details out because I don’t want anyone I know knowing but recently (the past 7 or so months) my mom has gotten really controlling about me, I turned 18 5 months ago and feel like I’ve lost freedoms more than gained any. I got a boyfriend shortly after turning 18 and he’s only a few months younger than me meaning he turns 18 soon and today me and my mom got into this giant fight about what college I’m going to.
So I wanted to go to a college about 5 hours away initially but upon actually thinking of the logistics of moving that far away from the place I’ve lived my life it sounded horrid and I changed to a school about 40 minutes from my town, for some reason my mom hates this even though it’s cheaper and closer for the same degree
Tonight I got home from my closing shift and was tired and when I walked in my mom hit me with the attitude and said “have you figured out what college you’re going to” and I said yes the one that’s 40 minutes away and she went off on me about how this was a horrible decision and she doesn’t approve. This turned into a giant fight where she said she thinks I’m only doing this because of the boyfriend and I’m going to regret this later on, I told you she was wrong, and she told me if my grades slip she’ll contact my boyfriends parents and get him sent back to his home state to live with his mother (I don’t see his father ever agreeing to that but it’s still crazy for my mom to say)
We were talking about how when I’m in college I’m not going to have time to do anything and I’ll basically be studying from wake up till sleep and I disagreed (I hate school I’m only going because of her) and she said “I’m not telling you what you need to do I’m telling you what you are going to do. You are going to go to college. You are going to study. And you are going to get good grades.
I don’t know if this is important but my mom dropped out her sophomore year of high school and I feel like she’s forcing me to go to college to live vicariously through me
I’m debating moving out after I graduate (graduation is next week) but I don’t know what issues this could bring, my car is in her name but I’m willing to give up the car if it means I’m free from her, my phones on her Verizon account and I am unsure how that would work
I have looked at prices for a storage unit in my town and they are fairly cheap so I could get one to hold my stuff I just don’t know if I’m making the wrong decisions and really could use advice
Again please ask for clarifications and I will provide them I’m tired and really don’t want to be in this house anymore but don’t know what to do, I also have some screenshots of me and my moms fights over text that I might post if anyone actually cares to see it I guess