u/Heavy_Ad7464

▲ 1

Ghosted by my scene partner

As the title suggests, we're both actirs in a theater group and also happen to be direct scene partners as the lead male and female for the show.
I'm (25m) and she's (34f). We had a lot of one on one rehearsing with each other and got close, eventually things got really flirty so i decided to ask her out after our first show which i did and she seemed really thrilled by it. A week later we went on our first (official) date and things went perfectly ! We spent 7 hours together only to say goodbye after midnight, we held hands for an hour non stop and she even put my hand on her thigh as we were seated for a concert. Before this there were only hand holdings for our scene and casual hugs here and there. Later that night we blew each other a kiss and parted ways. She texted me maybe 10 minutes later and thanked me for dinner and said how she loved our "perfect" evening together and how impressed she was by my actions and how she can't wait to do more together ... so far so good huh? Well i matched her energy and few days later i asked her out on another date which she happily agreed to. But unfortunately she got sick and had to cancel (she was really sick as i saw her later at a rehearsal just so you know). That rehearsal now exactly a month ago was the last time i saw/spoke to her. After the rehearsal she approached me and we had a fun flirty conversation that lasted almost an hour. She basically found every excuse to fall into my arms and/or to touch me (as always) and of course i returned the same energy. Again later that night she texted me and we briefly joked about our earlier conversation and agreed upon that date once we were both back from our trips. Days later i texted her to see if she's doing better and i got no reply, then i waited for 10 days and texted her again to see if she's back from her trip, and got ghosted to this day ! She wasn't present during our last rehearsal either so i didn't get the chance to address this in person ! But i'm very confused as to what happened here and how did she go from seemingly being all over me to ghosting me for a month??? Any insight or advice will be appreciated !
Note: We're doing another show together in less than two weeks and there will be two more rehearsals in between and after that we're doing yet another project together ...

reddit.com
u/Heavy_Ad7464 — 23 hours ago
▲ 0

Okay so this is gonna be a bit of a long read.
But as the title suggests, we're both actors in a theater play that started really small but now is headed towards an international theater festival with a massive audience ! Ever since our very first rehearsal you could see that we have the chemistry on stage, after many hours of acting together and casually chatting it up at the theater, i realized i really like her as a person and that we have an amazing chemistry on a personal level as well as on stage. I'm 25m and she's 34f for better context.
We had a show scheduled for the end of march and i knew i was gonna ask her out once that show is wrapped up. She was always very touchy and flirty with me and we would spend a lot of one on one time together during rehearsals given that we were the lead male and female characters in the play and ironically were in love lol.
I always matched her flirtious energy and eventually followed up on her signals and initiated texting, things was going well and then we went on a semi official coffee date before the show. Which went so well that we lost track of time and got to the venue 15 minutes late ! The show went perfectly well and then we shared a long walk where i asked her out on a date and she started blushing and then told me "i'd love that" the night ended with a long lasting hug, a beautiful, heart warming text from her and lota of excitement. Fast forward to 10 days later, we had our first official date together and it couldn't have gone any better. Conversation was flowing very naturally, lots of laughter, holding hands, my hand resting on her inner thigh and deep conversations. The date lasted \~7 hours and i gave her at least two opportunities to "exit" in case she's not interested but she deliberately made it obvious she's enjoying our time and wants to stay ! After we parted ways eventually around 00:30 midnight, she texted me the following: "(My name) You're amazing ! I loved our perfect evening together and everything you had chosen and did tonight ! Thank you again for dinner, i can't wait to do more together, have fun fishing tomorrow big kiss"
All good huh? Okay here comes the catch. Couple days later we set up another date but a day before she cancelled because she was sick and asked if i wanna meet earlier before our next rehearsal to spend some alone time together instead to which i agreed. But i never heard anything back from her and i didn't wanna chase so i didn't say anything either. She just shows up at the rehearsal that day, still visibly sick but then after approaches me and gives me a hug. We were both going on a short trip later that week so we decided to spend some time together. We talked for a good 40 minutes and hugged at least 3 times with more touching in between, she then had to catch a train so blew me a kiss and said "i'll text you". Later that night she did text me and we talked briefly and agreed on a coffee date once we were both back from our trips. Hours before leaving for my trip, i texted her and wished her a speedy recovery and a safe flight and also hinted at that date. No reply.
Fast forward to a week later and not hearing anything back, i sent another text asking her how she's doing and if she's back from her trip yet. It's been a week since i sent that text and still NO REPLY !! I'm confused and feel disrespected to be honest. She's been inconsistent over text from the very first day but never ghosted me for a week ! At latest, she would reply to me the next day. Also it's worth noting that before asking her out, she was the one initiating most of the flirting. I'll see her again for a rehearsal in a couple of days and i'm almost 100% sure that she'll be as warm and engaging as always ! So i'm lost and need advice on how to handle it and also some insight on what do you guys think is going on here? Is she just a terrible texter? Is she uninterested all of a sudden for some reason? I'd appreciate any insight/advice !

reddit.com
u/Heavy_Ad7464 — 11 days ago