I don’t have anyone irl I can talk to about this without it being super awkward. I am F in my mid-20s and I have been married to my husband for about a year now. We were both each other's firsts and waited until marriage because of religion, so we really didn't know what to expect once we actually got to that stage.
We have been having some major issues with intimacy. He struggles with finishing, like literally within a minute or two, and it is making it almost impossible for us to actually enjoy ourselves or even think about starting a family. We have always been told we are the perfect couple, both look very good and compatible but nobody knows the struggles we faced. If anything, I feel like he is almost too overwhelmed.
I have tried gently suggesting that we go see a specialist or even just a GP at a polyclinic to see if there is an underlying issue, but he is being so stubborn about it. He gets really defensive and says it is just stress or that we just need more practice, but it has been a year and nothing is changing. It is starting to take a toll on my self-esteem even though I know it is a medical thing, and I am worried that if we don't fix this now, our plans to have kids are going to be sidelined forever.
Has anyone else dealt with this? I don't want to push him too hard and bruise his ego further, but I also can't just keep pretending everything is fine when I am feeling so unfulfilled and stressed about our future. How do I get him to realize that both of us seeing a doctor isn't a sign of weakness? Any advice would be appreciated.