u/HeadOriginal5266

It's sad to see but as an adult, I've experienced so much racism from other asian american women than anyone else. A lot of them perpetuate and push racist stereotypes onto me and I just want to understand how this is even possible.

For example, a lot of racist people will say asian people all look the same, have small eyes, or are all nerdy, and I've heard these exact stereotypes repeated to me by asian women. They'll say things like all asian guys look the same so they remind them of their brother, I've had an asian girl who got eyelid surgery trying to make fun of me about how my eyes look small and filipino's eyes look more white (she was filipino), or how they don't like asian guys because they're all nerdy (which is whatever ig).

Also, I'm korean american but I never really lived in areas with other korean americans, so when I do meet a korean american girl I do put an extra effort to get to know her. However, the ones I've met were some of the most racists people I have ever met. Stereotyping me for every little thing, or if one korean man did something in their past they would make it seem like it's ALL korean men.

Some of the ridiculous things I would hear is when I told a girl about a game I played called TFT and as soon as I said that she just blurts out "OH YOU THINK YOU'RE SPECIAL OR SOMETHING, ALL YOU ASIAN GUYS PLAY THAT SHIT" and I was like wtf it's just a video game lmao (ngl I looked it up and it's kinda true). Or when this korean girl who btw never been to korea and is born and raised in new jersey tell me about how horrible all korean men are and about the 4b movement and how they're all misogynistic. Also she would say korean men are fat phobic and have small dicks because one guy when she was younger called her friend fat?? Then, after she talks shit about korean guys she would tell me "but you, you seem different from the other korean guys" and im like okay thanks also wtf??? Btw this girl's first bf was a white guy who called her a dog eating alien (by her words) but she still would say that they "loved each other in their own ways" ???

Why do I get judged and stereotyped because some other asian man does or said something? Why do they hold so many weird values against me as an asian man? I guess it would be one thing if they treated everyone this way, but I've met so many asian women who only stereotype asian men. Even if they experienced a lot of racism/sexualization from non-asian men they never stereotype them.

These were past experiences, but these days anytime I'd see asian women on tiktok I'd see "oxford study" in the comments and when I look it up it's exactly my experience with asian women. So everyone (not just us asians) seems to know it's happening but wtf is going on? Why do we have so many asian women being racist towards asian guys, and sometimes going further and supporting white supremacy/worshipping?

I just want to know why and what we could do about it, I'm tired of seeing asian on asian discrimination.