u/GreedyArtist4676

I made new friends last year let’s call them S and T. I was new to this country and didn’t have friends for a long time due to Covid (+ racism) so I was extremely happy to finally have some friends. At first everything was going great, we three got along perfectly, we had similar political views and everything but then things started to sour between me and T because she would constantly cancel plans with me (hangouts, shopping, sleepover) at the last moment either because she doesn’t feel like anymore or cause she’s too tired to make it. After like he 4th-5th time she cancelled our plan within the span of a few months I was honestly done with her and I snapped and told her I did not like it and I felt really hurt and that I don’t think she cares about me or respects me at all and I don’t wanna be friends with her anymore. S was really mad/disappointed with me when she found out that I wanted to cut ties with T and she sided with T saying “people have problems in their life” or that I’m being too sensitive and not being a good friend by not being understanding and empathetic and then she says that if I don’t want to be friends with T just because she cancels plans at the last moment then she doesn’t wanna be friends with me either because I might treat her the same way when she cancels plans in the future and then they both stop talking to me. After that I felt kind of guilty and really bad. Maybe I was the problem, maybe she’s right, maybe I am being too sensitive or apathetic and I should forgive her. I apologized to the two and we made up after that. But at the back of my mind I still felt really uncomfortable with T and I still had this feeling that I am right. Then fast forward a few weeks it was my birthday and I invited the two. S asks me if it’s okay to bring her cousin sister along who I’ve never met or heard of before cauze she wants to “see what it’s like” so I said okay. We had a great day actually and then a few months later I come back from my vacation and me and S are on our way to her friends house but on the way we face a problem and I needed to go to the police station to file a complaint. S cant come with me cause she has some problem so I ask T if she could accompany me to the police station and she says yes, I had a feelings she might be late or something but the next day I get her message saying she has to cancel our plan cause her friend who she’s known for a long time was proposed and invited her to her proposal party to click photographs. She says I’m sorry I can’t make it yada yada honestly I literally did not give a shit about her excuses. I told her I’m cutting ties with her and that I don’t trust her at all and that she obviously doesn’t care about or respect me at all and that she’s always ditching me at the last moment for no reason and that she has never prioritized me the way I have for her. This time S agrees with me and says she’s wrong for doing that. But even then she tries to come up with excuses for T saying “oh maybe it’s cause she’s still in her vacation feels and that’s why she couldn’t grasp the gravity of the situation”. After that I completely stop talking to T but S is still friends with her. At the start of our new semester T lies to S saying that she tried to talk to me and send me messages but I’m ignoring her and not replying to her texts which is such a big lie. And I even told S that she’s lying to her but she doesn’t listen to me at all. A few months later S makes a new friend “E” who I wasn’t very comfortable being around but I still hung out with cause S would invite her along with us. It was soon E birthday and she told S that she wanted to have a small gathering of 10mins and buy us cupcakes but I said I couldn’t make it cause T might be there and I didn’t wanna make things awkward for everyone, I also joked that maybe if the cupcake was yummy I’ll join you but apparently S took it seriously. E later tells me that she did not invite T to the gathering so I said okay then I’ll be there and when S found out about this ?? Oh my was she mad. She was mad cause I changed my decision and she felt that I was only coming for the cupcake (I didn’t even know what flavor it was💀) and that she felt personally betrayed because she felt like I wouldn’t show up to her birthday either if she had invited T. I told her she was being a hypocrite cause she’s mad at me just imagining that I didn’t show up for her at an important situation but when T actually did it to me IRL she doesn’t even care and is still friends with her. And then she starts saying I’m mean to E and that I don’t like her faise she’s talks a lot (psychologically analyzing me basically) and that she doesn’t like some of my traits either that my mouths smells like meat after I eat lunch (hers stinks like she’s been fasting all day even though she ate), and calls me CRAZY, Yes She calls me CRAZY because sometimes I talk to myself or physically react to my internal monologues (yk the voice in your head) and I told her it’s normal to talk to yourself and that doesn’t make you crazy. Whats actually crazy is imaging yourself getting mistreated by your friend and then blaming them in real life, whixh literally IS WEIRD bruh. Then she starts admitting that yeah you’re right, I can’t expect you to be nice to everyone, or to like everyone blah blah. Honestly this just left suchhhh a bad image of her tbh I low-key decided to slowly fade out of our friend group. Idk I still feel like maybe I am wrong maybe I was being too sensitive or what. Now S has another friend F who I don’t know extremely well and we don’t go to the same uni but we have hung out like 3-4 times. The very first time we hung out she was nice but she def was a bit entitled/ aloof/ air headed kind of personality. We were shopping and when we were done I asked if anyone wanted to go get ice cream and she said yes. We went to the store and we both got our choice and she just left ?? Like she didn’t even pay for her stuff she just left me thete to pay for her even though I never offered to nor did she ask me if I could. But I didn’t say anything and I just paid for the both of us and left. I found that reallyyyyyy weirddddd. Whats weirder is that F had invited her bf in the middle of our shopping without even telling us and he was thete the whole time so why wouldn’t she just ask him to pay for her ??? The next time we hung out we went swimming and S asked me if I could buy the ticket for her cause I arrived early and they were gonna be late and the line was long. F didnt have any spare change so I paid for hers too. I don’t mind paying for my friends but I do mind being treated like a piggy bank. I didn’t ask them to pay me back or whatever cause it’s embarrassing so I don’t mind it. A few months later it’s S birthday and F decides to gift her a pair of boots S has been eyeing for some times and she makes a group chat with all of us her,me, T and E. She asks us if we could all chip in 26€ each and we all agree to it. I was a bit late to give her the 26€ and I could only give 20€ at the end cause the distributor didnt have 5€. She texts me a few days later and asks me why I only gave her 20€ and not the remaining 6€ I tell her I didn’t have the money and if there was a problem with it and she says yeah it’s not nice to make others pay for your share and what not which I found so hypocritical lol. I just said sorry and I gave her the 6€ then I blocked her lmao. I was really annoyed with her weird and entitled she was being. It’s not nice to make people pay for my share but she did the same to me ?? I ranted to S saying how she’s weird and is a hypocrite and what not. The only wrong thing I did was call her a Bixh but tbh she did deserve it. And then of course S responds and says how dare you talk about my friend like this blah blah you think you can talk shit about my friend and I’m gonna be quiet and I told her that she literally always sides with the other person and barely even supports me when though I’m absolutely right in most situation. She then stops talking to me again and I was also done rnb and after that I cut them all off. I literally haven’t spoken to any of them ever since then and sometimes it feels like crossing them in the street or at the mall or in the class cause they’re like one big group and I’m all alone but tbh I do feel alone sometimes but I’m also feeling so calm and like idk free ?
Do you think I made any wrong decisions or overreacted ? I do acknowledge that Ive overreacted in the last part by name calling btw.
Thank you