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I (42F) ended a 5-month relationship with my boyfriend (45M) .
Things were generally going well. We are both Christian and were attending church together. We were also trying to abstain from premarital sex, though we did cross some boundaries at times.
He later told me he had gone to his men’s Bible study/accountability group to pray with them, process what happened, and stay accountable. I was not told beforehand that he would be discussing our relationship in that setting and only found out after the fact.
He shared aspects of our relationship dynamic with the group. It wasn’t explicit sexual details, but it involved private aspects of our relationship.
I also know these men personally and see them often in social settings, which made me feel embarrassed and exposed.
When I told him I was uncomfortable and felt my privacy and dignity weren’t protected, he said those concerns were coming from “the enemy,” that this is how he conducts his spiritual life, and that I need to trust him and be aligned with his approach.
The hurtful part was mostly the dismissal of my feelings and the way he pushed me for compliance to his " spiritual leadership" at the same time. He was basically giving me an ultimatum to be on the same page than him because "he needs a woman that walk the same path" than him.
I told him we were not alligned and ended the relationship after that.
Did I exhgerate by breaking up after he didn't care about my feelings?