How to handle in-law, need opinions
Ohio. I would like opinions or knowledge of what others have done in this situation. My father passed away 30 years ago and my sister and her husband (BIL) moved in with my mother because she didn't want to live alone. This is our family house that we all grew up in on our farm. My mother signed the house over to my sister and BIL when they moved in with the exception of a small mortgage to be paid by my sister when my mother passes. The money was to be taken out of her share of her inheritance essentially giving them the house. It's about 20% of what the house is worth.
My sister passed last year and my mother is still living with my brother in law. The deal was that my mother would live with them as long as she could for giving them the house. My mother is 90 and still pretty healthy. My sister was originally the executor of the estate and treated my mother badly. She pressured her into things she didn't want to do, including giving her the home but did it so she didn't have to live alone. She was also pressured into other things like all kinds of updates to the home, like granite countertops, a pool, new appliances and furniture. This is just some of it. Now that some time has expired since my sisters passing my mother is having regrets on giving them the house. She told me she was pressured into doing a lot of things she didn't want to do.
Originally my sister was set to keep the house and get 25% of all other assets. By the way, the house is worth 3 times what it was when it was signed over to them. Now that my mother has had time to think she has rewritten her will to cut my BIL out of the estate since he has the house. She has left him enough money to pay the mortgage owed on the house but that's it. When the value of the house is considered he will actually end up with more value in property then me and my 2 brothers will end up with in money. The property is actually worth about 100k more than the assets each of us will receive.
Here is where I need opinions or advice. Does it seem reasonable to cut out the BIL from any other money since he has the home? Does he even deserve anything at all from MY parents estate? Even if he didn't have the home would he be entitled to anything? He seems to think so and has repeatedly confronted me on the subject over and over again all while my mother is still living! He has asked so many times I finally told him what was happening because I was tired of hearing it. He even told me that we don't love our sister because she, not he, is being cut out of the will. How do others handle in-laws in any kind of situation? Do they get the siblings cut or do they get cut? My mom says he doesn't deserve anything. Thanks for any responses