“Love” songs are toxic
On Mother’s day (a day that typically celebrates the ball and chain of biological motherhood and enslavement to a man), I came across a blast from the past song Love Fool today- a song of lack, longing, and powerlessness of a woman clinging to a man that does not love her. I used to love this song and found its melody intoxicating, and in the past I found this feeling of longing for a man (a state of lack) to also be intoxicating, so I guess this song resonates with the disempowered woman’s mind. I looked at the lyrics today and was shaking my head but also seeing how far I have come in my 4B journey to reject this mentality:
Dear, I fear we're facing a problem
You love me no longer, I know and
Maybe there is nothing that I can do
To make you do
Mama tells me I shouldn't bother
That I ought just stick to another man
A man that surely deserves me
But I think you do
So I cry and I pray and I beg
Love me love me
Say that you love me
Fool me fool me
Go on and fool me
Love me love me
Pretend that you love me
Leave me leave me
Just say that you need me
So I cry and I beg for you to
Love me love me
Say that you love me
Leave me leave me
Just say that you need me
I can't care 'bout anything but you
Lately I have desperately pondered
Spent my nights awake and I wonder
What I could have done in another way
To make you stay
Reason will not lead to solution
I will end up lost in confusion
I don't care if you really care
As long as you don't go
So I cry, I pray, and I beg
Love me, love me
Say that you love me
Fool me, fool me
Go on and fool me
Love me, love me
Pretend that you love me
Leave me, leave me
Just say that you need me
So I cry and I beg for you to
Love me, love me
Say that you love me
Leave me, leave me
Just say that you need me
I can't care 'bout anything but you