Salam Aleikum
Some background: my wife (36) and I (38) have been married for 12 years. She's always known that I hate mlukhiya — both the dish itself and the way the chicken is prepared for it. She makes it twice a month or more since it's her and the kids' favorite, and I just work around it. I either grab something else or eat leftovers. In 12 years I've only eaten very rarely.
So a couple days ago she made hamburgers and they were really good. I told her I loved them that night, then brought it up again the next morning on my way to work. I asked her to make them the same way next time since she'd used some new spices.
That same day I came home around 8:30, tired and hungry. She's heating up food and I'm thinking great, leftovers. Then she gives the leftover burgers to our 10-year-old. I asked "what about me?" and she said there's mlukhiya. I reminded her I don't eat that, and also that I've been dieting and cutting out rice. She got annoyed and basically said "that's what we have, if you don't like it cook something yourself, I'm tired and I'm not making two separate meals." So I ended up eating scrambled eggs.
A few days later when the kids weren't around, I sat down with her and told her I was disappointed. I said something like, a wife who loves and respects her husband and recognizes what he does for the family wouldn't do that.
She didn't take it well. Her argument is that I'm making a huge deal out of nothing — it happened once, everyone makes mistakes, and if she did it repeatedly then I'd have a point. She also said I eat what I like most days so one night of sacrifice isn't the end of the world. She also brought up that she sometimes skips cooking things she likes because the kids or I don't enjoy them.
But my frustration isn't really about what I ate that night. It's about what the whole situation says about how she sees me in the context of everything else.
Am I overreacting?