EDIT:
From what I've read and what people have messaged me, it seems like he may have a short frenulum. In regard to the phimosis, his foreskin can fully retract over his glands / head, but only to the bottom and when it does he gets a red ring around the top of it.
Original post:
hey all. I'm feeling a little discouraged and I don't know what to do. So my husband and I both waited until marriage to have sex. We were both virgins on our wedding night, but now that we've started trying to have sex he cannot stay hard or feel anything inside of me. We have tried multiple times and he is always hard right before he puts it in and then goes soft. I feel disappointed as I always looked forward to what sex would feel like after years of waiting. It's a shit situation and lowkey can see why people say try before you buy. But I love him and want to help him and make it work. I was just wondering if anyone has any advice ? He has tried the steroid cream to lose the for skin, and potentially will be having surgery. Only thing is his doctor said that he also may have another condition where his skin is tight under his penis (frenulum) which also doesn't help. I guess I'm just wondering if anyone knows if this can better, and if it's common to lack feeling / not be able to stay hard with phimosis ?