Observations on Duality: Mobilizing & Demonstrative
Maybe this is common knowledge, but I figured it out while lying in my bed thinking so I thought it might be interesting to share and maybe ppl can clarify some things.
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The thesis:
In duality, the partner with a given creative function values the expression of their partner's mobilizing function because though it's weaker, the emphasis placed upon it by the partner cuts down on their dual's use of the unvalued but easily used demonstrative function (also their partner's PolR), shifting them towards their valued creative function.
This process is valuable for the dual because there is a trade-off between the demonstrative and creative due to having opposite extraversion/introversion, similar to the trade-off between the leading and role, but which ends up being highly suppressive of the creative function due to higher dimensionality in the demonstrative function.
This process is also necessary for the health of the duality due to overuse of the demonstrative function corresponding to the highly painful vulnerable function of the other.
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Anecdote:
I was looking back at conversations I had a while ago with someone who turned out to be my dual, way before I really got into socionics.
I have creative (3D) Ti. They have mobilizing (2D) Ti. A socionics novice (aka, my perception of duality when I first got into socionics a month ago) might look at this and think that this mainly manifests as the Ti creative supplying theories for the Ti mobilizing, which they would value. Maybe, partially correct. But that ignores the two-way nature of duality:
Despite higher dimensionality in my Ti, I had told them one of the things I appreciated the most about them was their skepticism regarding things I said. I described the way I thought as randomly saying things, throwing explanations at the wall and hoping they stuck: and I thought people accepted my explanations too easily because I would just spew some bullshit and kind of just argue them into agreement (half the time, by citing made up or real but pigeonholed authorities, facts, and experience, which I have always been really good at pulling from the internet really fast during an argument). And I said I appreciated their skepticism because it forced me to think through the basic logic of what I was saying.
I was quite surprised from my perspective that they thought my methods were "elegant" and analogous to the scientific method and something about how they would end up repeating my conceptualizations of things weeks later to others. I was also surprised by their conceptualization of themselves as agreeing to things too easily. Because that wasn't how I imagined the emphasis on logic in our dyad worked, and I thought that compared to literally everyone they were one of the least easily convincible people I knew.
When I had first gotten into socionics, I thought our duality was me as an EIE and them as an LSI, because I simply didn't believe my Ti was that good but that it was valued, and this idea I needed them for it. Then I thought I was SEE with Ti PolR and that they were an ILI with Ti demonstrative. It's kind of funny how blind you can be to your own creative function just because the demonstrative trades off with it and is so easy to use.
But nope, I had always used and valued Ti, the classification of information was something I did weirdly often for fun as a kid, used often in my life, made me a nationally ranked competitive debater which I somehow overlooked, and high dimensionality Ti+Te allowed me to learn a lot about socionics and how it works despite only finding out it existed a month ago.
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Generalizations:
Now that I've verbalized it, it seems pretty obvious to me. But some other examples with non-Ti functions, given the generalization of the thesis:
SEE/ILI and IEE/SLI dualization, where the XEE's overly expressive emotions are quieted down by their partner and they are able to proceed more calmly with valued Fi; and the XLI's tendency towards crafting logical theses is made less frequent and replaced by more practical logic Te;
LSI/EIE and ESI/LIE dualization, where the XSI's proclivity to create comfortable situations is made less frequent by their partner and they are able to freely use force with valued Se; and the XIE's constant creation of alternate possibilities is made more infrequent and are able to focus more on one vision with valued Ni;
ESE/LII and LSE/EII dualization, where the XSE's proclivity to the violent use of self-defensive force is pacified by their dual's lack of pushback and they are able to create pleasant emotions around them with valued Si; and the XII's proclivity to forecasting and existential meaning-reading is quieted down in favor of the exploration of varied possibilities with valued Ne.
et cetera.
Obviously, the demonstrative function would still be expressed from time to time, otherwise it wouldn't be able to cover for the dual's PolR. But the general trend should be one of quieting it down in favor of the creative.
(All of the above examples of all the other dualities should be taken with a hell of a mountain of salt because I made them up while sitting on my bed and are purely based on my half-baked understanding of the functions from like three to four weeks of reading wikisocion.io and reddit posts.
Except for IEE dualization, because I've seen it multiple times. Superego relations might suck based on socionic's highly soviet understanding of Intertype relations as the creation of an economic unit, and I can't really work with IEEs, but they make for pretty close friendships and easy understanding of thoughts and perspectives even if not actions--when every one of your function blocks are the same. I've always thought I tend to keep two close people in my time at a time: an IEE to see how I "really" am normally and for all my depraved and hateful thoughts, and then an IEI to bring out the self I aspire to be. But that could be a whole other post so I'll leave it here.)
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Other thoughts are always appreciated! Especially since I'm not an expert in this stuff.