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I made my own little base on a server after multiple failed attempts, was looking to team with some folks, met someone in chat who was looking for the same, we added each other on discord and played together for about 3 days, I farmed literally all the resources, I honeycombed the starter base to make sure we don't get offlined.

His buddy joins us and we continue to build the starter base and run monuments and gather loot. They were using all the scrap to research since they were better at pvp and I was just a farmer, so I would bring in the wood, stone, metal and sulfur but since they would get most of the scrap from pvp or monuments I thought it was fine that I had no BPs, they could just craft stuff for me.

Next day we continue playing and start building the new base, and then one of them secretly destroys my bags while pretending to be afk in base while me and his buddy "run" a monument, then his friend just kills me and they leave the discord chat...

They stole my base and all my resources, and it was a few days into wipe so I couldn't even walk back to base without getting destroyed by randoms roaming the map, but it wouldn't matter since they likely changed all the codes in my base.

How is this fun for anyone?

Like I thought I was making real friends, like the video game is there for us to have fun and do silly tasks and missions but in the real world you can actually befriend other humans, I'm not even that mad I'm just genuinely confused about the psychology and thought process, like I was nice and friendly all the time, when I asked them why they did it they just said it's cuz I was bad at pvp, but I was upfront about being a farmer and builder from the very beginning. Maybe it was for the best, cuz they were sometimes racist and kinda mean with big egos anyways but it still still feels not nice to get backstabbed.

Anyways, since I don't really enjoy playing solo since I always have to look over my shoulder and now I don't want to play in a group and team since, as the saying goes, you should never trust in rust... so I just lowkey uninstalled the game to touch grass for a bit and realize I wasted a few hundred hours of my life on this game, thankfully I'm not even halfway to 1k hours.

The objective of this game, at least on official servers, seems to just be "ruin someone's day", genuinely how do you game with someone for 3 days and just switch up, I really didn't think people like that existed, it makes sense to KOS when you see a complete stranger you haven't interacted with for over 3 seconds but how do you play with someone for multiple 12 hours sessions just to backstab?

Maybe this game just isn't for me

I play alot of multiplayer team or PVP games but i feel like i don't enjoy them anymore, i play valorant, CS2 and Rust (the holy trinity of hating yourself), but i feel like everybody just wants to shit on you or ruin your day in those games, like that whole point isn't even having fun but making the enemy miserable, and i just got mega betrayed in rust so i have no interest in the game anymore

I like playing multiplayer games but all them are so competitive or toxic, I just want to play like minecraft with voice chat, and ideally a player base that isn't all under 18, (I know minecraft isn't a kids-only game, I've been playing it since alpha, but I assume if i did use voice chat mods and servers that majority of the player base is likely half my age or less)

the only thing i can think of is maybe fortnite, which I enjoy to a certain degree, since there's no voice chat (except for that one time when delulu was around) you can't really trash talk, but it's still a competitive game, and I'm sure if it was less regulated and had voice chat in all game modes it would devolve into something like rust within a month

fall guys was fun for like a day about six years ago, so was among us

i genuinely don't know exactly what i'm looking for, i guess maybe like zelda or mario but with an open world multiplayer game, something that isn't just about killing your enemies and hitting headshots

I'm avoiding the word "cozy game" but yeah maybe a multiplayer cozy game, or something like that, i really love open world games, like GTA, Zelda, some Mario games, Rust (when playing PVE the game is bearable)

maybe i just yearn for community (time to touch grass?) but i just want something chill and fun with people, since i get bored of single player games easily, i've finished maybe two or three single player games in my entire life