I found out recently that my (insane) ex MB and her (perfect) NK’s live right next door to my current family.
Hi all! I am a full time nanny of 8 years. I’ve worked with so many amazing families, and a few not so amazing families. I’ve mostly had great experiences, I love my job! Howeverrrr, one family in particular put me through HELL. Let me tell you. Also idk the acronyms y’all use so lock in this is a mess of a story.
I started working for this family a few springs ago. I’m used to working with families long term, but I was in a stretch where I really just needed a temporary thing, and if I ended up really liking them, I would’ve been open to full time. It was just mom, dad, and NB & NG. MB and DB seemed really nice at first. They are *were* both business owners, so very very busy. I would watch their kids Thurs-Sat. Typically from 3:30pm-2am. Sometimes 6am-2am. It really just depended. I was 21 at the time, so I definitely loved the long hours at the time. I would do school pickup, sometimes drop off, basic housekeeping: dishes, kids laundry, pet care, meal prep, and just keeping the place put together. They started off just like any other nanny family, communication was great, clicked really well with parents and kids, etc etc.
UNTIL. Some sort of bug crawled up MB and BD butts and turned them evil.
They started leaving MOUNTAINS of laundry for me to do.
Everyday I’d get there with a new mountain of laundry somehow even though I’d fold a mountain of it the day before.
DISHES EVERYWHERE. ALL THE TIME. Had me cleaning up meals I wasn’t even present for.
MB AND DB clearly hated each other and had no communication, one time I let MB know WEEKS in advance i wouldn’t be able to pick up kids from school on this date, reminded them several times leading up. Day comes, boom. MB AND BD are blowing up my phone asking why I never picked up the kids. WHAT DID I TELL YALL. IT WAS ON THE KITCHEN CALENDER. Found out even after everything was sorted, DB told the kids i forgot them and they cried when i saw them the next day. LIKE???? I WOULD NEVER
DB lacked manners DIABOLICALLY. Literal man child
MB would NEVER. pay me on time. the entire time i worked for her she routinely payed me a week late. every week. even after sending reminders. this is before i had a pair of balls but i would literally show up work all week without pay for the week before because it didn’t matter if i said something or not, she’d be like yeah ok, then still wouldn’t pay me on time.
They’d sometimes show up 2 hours late after not being able to get a hold of them, so i’d be forced to leave at 3am, and then I’d have to be back by 7 am the next day. They told me i could stay over on nights like these, but after i told them my overnight rate, they never offered again on nights like this.
THE KICKER. We ended on terrible terms. I finally hit my breaking point when MB left me with both kids on a 6am-3am work day, both kids had 103°+ fevers. You know, grounds for ER. It got too much for me to handle this day, I could only do so much for those kids, they needed their mom and dad, not the nanny. I tried everything to get ahold of MB and DB throughout the day. Never answered me. Should’ve called the police that day. They FINALLY show up at 4am. And they wanted me back the next day at 6am. Like what. Never offered to let me stay over. I woke up the next morning, and knew I would actually explode if i went in that day, so I called off. I explained how it’s not responsible or ok for me to be there on that little of sleep, in charge of your BABIES, and I was honest about how upset i was that they expected this of me. I told them that i understand how busy their work life is, but it’s really started to affect myself and the kids, and how unsustainable it was. MB ended up trying to guilt me into coming that day, i turned my phone off and went back to sleep. I know that’s probably messed up, but this was after MONTHS and MONTHS of them taking advantage of me, ignoring boundaries, and creating an uncomfortable work environment for me.
When i quit: After the way MB spoke to me when I explained that things are really negatively affecting the kids and I, I knew it was time to quit, and two weeks were all i was willing to give. But MB had my rather large paycheck from all of those hours the week before, and it was important to me to make sure I received my pay before letting them know i would be stepping down because they were unpredictable as my bosses. Once again, MB took an entire week to get me my paycheck. After asking twice, once over text, once in person, like how many times do i have to tell you i am paid WEEKLY. NOT BIWEEKLY. AND YOU AGREED TO THIS. SO. By the time I got my paycheck, a week fucking later, i decided i was going to quit as soon as i got home from picking up my paycheck. Like actually goodbye.
Soooo i sent her a long text. Normally I’d cop out on confrontation to avoid burning any bridges, MIND YOU I ADORE HER KIDS, but too much had happened, and none of it was ok. So i was very honest, as respectably as i could be. She ignored everything I said and bribed me with an extra $.50 an hour to finish out the weekend because they had an important catering event. I very nicely told her to fuh off and that her and her husband have a problem with their work life balance. She ended up messaging me a few more times over the next couple of months, telling me how dearly her kids miss me, why she treated me the way she did, she said she was going through a hard time in her personal life, but the word *sorry* never came about, so I ended up having to ask her to please not contact me again.
CUT TO:
it’s been a few years right. i’m working for a new family. they’re perfect. baby is perf, they treat me like family! we have such an amazing relationship.
BUT THEN
sorry i’m trying to keep y’all locked in bc this is crazy.
i’m casually chatting with my NEW MB whom i love, and she’s explaining the dynamic they have with the neighbors.
“Kids can play with neighbor kids from the house on the left, but not on the right”- MB
“Oh ok, sounds good! Why, what happened” me probably
“NG saw something scary on the girl next doors IPAD that really seemed to spook her, they just seem to have different screen time regulations than us, no big deal, we just try to keep them outside when they play” MB.
She casually name drops kids next door names’. In my head i’m like “oh that’s weird, i used to babysit siblings with those names” MB casually name drops moms name. This is when i’m like….woah. weird.
so i say “what did you say moms name is again” she starts to say it with last name this time. my hand flies to my fucking face.
IM LIKE “MB. that’s the crazy family i was telling you about just the other day. YOU’RE TELLING ME THEY LIVE RIGHT NEXT DOOR. THEY MOVED HERE. AND IVE BEEN WORKING HERE ALL THIS TIME NOT KNOWING SHES BEEN RIBJT THERE THIS WHOLE TIME?!! what are the odds. my MB and i are just jaw dropped. She starts telling me all the tea.
i want to say for the record, i understand my ex MB was going through a hard time, and with that I am so understanding, that was so awful to hear when I found out, but that does not constitute the way they treated me. turns out. ex DB is fucking crazy and ex MB had to get a restraining order on him and move out here. not fucking surprised. terrible, but not surprised.
DO YALL UNDERSTAND. how many times i used to watch my back in public, worried about running into them, because we used to live in the same town, whole time, they’re RIGHT THERE. at my nanny job. 40 mins away from my town. LESS THAN 50 FT FROM MY CURRENT NANNY HOUSE. Do you know how many times I ended up in her back yard chasing after my current NK, and she’s been out there?!!! but i just didn’t realize it was her??? because why would it ever be her????? so now i’ve been spending all my time watching my back everytime we’re outside, on walks, etc so i can be prepared if i ever run into the kids, or the mom for that matter. it’s been interesting.
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