Tony And Carmella Were Just Lazy Parents
Why didn’t his parents especially Tony just take away is game boys and computer and just make him do chores. Do your chores or you don’t eat.
When you break it down neither of them were especially good parents because they both wanted quick fixes albeit through different methods.
Tony thought corporal punishment was the end all be all to parenting and Carmella thought appeasement and coddling was the way but both of these were just emblematic of absentee parenting.
It was further exemplified when Tony went to see Vito Jr and jumped straight to violent threats when he didn’t get immediate compliance from him. With all that kid was going through why would it not occur to Tony or anyone else in the crew to just spend some time with him and take him to some sports events. The Headmaster at the military academy laid it out perfectly when he said that parents dumping their kids into the for profit drug industry.
Their was never really any actual concern just a lot of emoting and melodrama.