u/Glittering-Bear7422

Me and my best friend have been friends for a while now and she recently got married to her now husband but I feel like she deserves better. When I met her husband when they first started dating he told her after meeting me that he wanted to “get to know” me more and get closer to me and my friend asked him why he didn’t feel that way towards any of her other friends and he told her it was because she wasn’t close with her other friends like she is with me—which is weird because why should that dictate who you want to get closer with. At first I didn’t think much of it I just thought it was a little weird how he said he wanted to get closer when he is with my best friend. Fast forward to a year after that I hung out with her one evening and she told me that he said in her own words that he told her he wanted her to get a little bigger like me and another girl we use to be friends with at the time. He told her she could try it and if she didn’t like it she could just lose the extra weight like it’s that easy. When she told me that it frustrated me because if you’re dating someone you claim you love you wouldn’t compare them to their best friend especially after making that comment about wanting to get closer to them—that’s weird. My friend became visibly insecure after that saying she was trying rlly hard to gain weight and kept wishing she had bigger boobs like me and it really upset me because in my eyes my best friend is gorgeous and doesn’t need to change anything about herself. I brought it up again to her after I noticed a huge change in how she perceived herself(shes always been insecure but this made her more visibly insecure) and she brushed it off and said he’s not great with words and he didn’t mean it like that he meant it in a way that was concerned for her because she stopped eating a lot and he wanted her to eat more, which I understand the concern but he could’ve worded it differently to where he’s not comparing her to another girl. She’s told me many things about their relationship in the beginning how he’s not that great at communicating and doesn’t pay attention to her at times which saddens me because being with someone who doesn’t communicate well doesn’t always work out and she shouldn’t have to beg for attention from someone she’s with. After that whole ordeal of him making those comments I’ve started to notice weird behavior from him like how he’s over friendly and super talkative around me at times and even interrupts me and my best friends conversation to talk to me directly while leaving his (now wife) out of the conversation at times. A few months ago my friend was fixing him and his family dinner because she was living with them until they could move into the house they now live in. Her husband suggested inviting me over to have dinner with him so she asked me and I agreed. I only agreed because my friend was cooking the food and I wanted to try and it hang out with HER, I was there for HER. When I got there she told me her husband was cleaning his room to try and impress me and I thought that was a little strange because why are you trying to impress another girl who isn’t your wife?? Let alone your wife’s best friend (they got married legally around this time but their wedding wasn’t until a few months after). My friend didn’t react like she thought it was weird she kind of said it in a flirty way so I brushed it off my shoulder and talked to a few friends and they said it was weird as well. Now fast forward to a few days ago at their wedding the vibes between them were so off, they both looked uncomfortable and not excited at all. He was acting a little distant towards her and not that engaged. Now, I know what I’m about to say might be harder to prove but I’m telling it how I perceived it. She picked me to be one of her bridesmaids and her maid of honor so I was the first one to walk down the isle after him, and when I did I could feel his eyes on me and I tried my best not to look at him but when I glanced at him for a split second I could see the expression on his face and it made me uncomfortable. He had this uncomfortable/guilty spaced out lost in thought look while looking at me walking down. I chose to ignore it. Later on after the ceremony and after everyone had eaten and we danced to the music my friend and her husband were sitting outside and I walked up to them with a bubble gun in my head and pointed it to her to be funny to try and cheer her up because she got a headache (completely ignoring her husbands existence) her husband immediately tries to knock it/take it out of my hand and so I pointed it at him instead. He didn’t try to do that to point it at her to be funny with me and try to cheer her up. After that everyone had left and it was just the bridesmaids and groomsmen. I went to use the bathroom and came back inside to look for my friend and spotted her outside with everyone else dancing with her husband. As soon as I walked out her husband immediately looks at me and walks off from my friend and sits down far away from her while looking at me. I don’t know if my friend caught on to how weird he was acting but when I asked to take pictures next to a carriage that was there she told me she already took pictures next to it but then agreed. She took my phone out of my hand and gave it back to me with a sassy attitude and looked me up and down and then her expression changed to an irritated look. Now I don’t know if it was because of the headache or if she caught on to how he was acting. When he proposed to her over last summer she told me he got nervous and chickened out and ended up not proposing to her at first which I completely understand you get nervous but I feel like if a man was confident in who he was wanting to propose and get married to he wouldn’t have completely not proposed in that moment even if he was nervous unless he was having second thoughts right? I love my best friend dearly but to me I feel like she deserves someone who wouldn’t make those comments and act different towards another girl who isn’t her. What are your thoughts?