u/Gl00myBear_2909

I’m a freshman university student (F) and I never thought about dating before in high-school despite the fact that I had many opportunities to do so- however, my parents were very strict about me only focusing on academics which was why I probably didn’t think about it that much.

So during my second semester I started developing a crush for a guy friend of mine but I didn’t do much about it because I didn’t want to ruin our friendship. I found him attractive and he was easy to get along with due to his calm disposition.. but he was also incredibly hard to read.

Some months later…

One day he showed me around his dorm room(just the two of us, his roommate was gone) and started to be very cuddly with me on his bed, even placing a hand between my thighs. I was so confused and overwhelmed but I just let him

The next day he apologized and confessed that he liked me. We started to “date” afterwards, but it felt.. I felt so empty, because most of what he talked about was either him in the gym or being physically intimate with me..mostly him being horny for me. We’ve cuddled a few times and such but emotionally? I was getting nothing emotionally from him even though I was being very emotionally vulnerable around him and asked him different questions about himself.

Then about three weeks later during text, I decided to confront him about it and he told me he just wanted something casual. I felt so empty and sad because I took everything so seriously and I genuinely wanted to know him more as a person-he didn’t even tell me that he wanted something casual from the start. I asked if he just wanted sex from me and he just avoided the topic and decided to end it right there and then.

He didn’t care about me. Not really.

I still feel so stupidly naive and used now, even though we were only starting to “date” for three weeks but I think that was an important lesson for me and I’m glad I confronted him before things would become even more shitty.

…I just wish I didn’t ignore the red flags from the start