u/Girlyygirll2025

I have a friend who reached out to me after ten years of not hearing from her. I am a bit inactive on social media. Last I saw on social media she did have a baby girl. So we spoke in November over the phone. She lives in a borough out of the city I live an hour drive from the city. Finally we made plans all of march to go out grab a bite to eat and catch up. April 1st I was going into the city for an appointment so I thought it would be convenient to go see her. I text if she’s still down to grab a bit to eat. She says we can grab something small. Which I thought ok its the 1st people have bills to pay. I end up going to her house brought pack of doughtnuts a little on the pricey side but I didn’t mind since its my first time coming over and meeting her 2 beautiful kids. We catchup have a good time. It was her birthday on the 15th of April I suggested we should go out for dinner. Friday as I’m about to leave she added her daughter would be joining us (5yrs) bc her son was out with the Dad. So I’m making my way I text her that I’m 10 mins away she throws in her son (2yrs) is coming with us aswell. I made my way at 6:30 I get there for 8:22. I stay in the car she asks if I want to come in bc she’s feeding her son which tbh I didn’t want to bc I knew it was going to take extra time to go to the restaurant. So we make our way with her kids to the car. Her daughter starts to cry and I’m like oh no would she want to stay with her Dad. My friend calls the dad and says her daughter is crying and he didn’t do much about it. We finally arrive at the restaurant in the parking she says I’ll e-transfer. I I’ll invite you (not her kids) as they were not apart of the plan. We go to the restaurant and its not child friendly the host says there’s 30 min wait so we’re debating but at the point I’m like if we go somewhere else it’ll be half and hour. We stay a table opens up her daughter is getting tired her son is acting like a typical toddler all over the booth. It’s different I’m not around kids at all. We agree on shareables we order 3 there is no kids menu so she orders them fried chicken and fries. We’re trying conversate and there certain things she won’t discuss due to her 5 year old daughter “understanding”. After what felt like 30 minutes she says should we wrap it up and just go to her house and chill. I wasn’t even really done eating. We were not there for even an hour. I ask for the bill and I pay plus the tip. At this point I’m over the night and I just wanted make my way home. Her kids end up falling asleep in my car I’m holding the 5 yr old and she has the 2 year old plus the car seat. We get to her apartment she doesn’t have the keys with her. It’s 11:10 she’s apologetic and trying to say she had the keys with her I told her I never saw her with the keys and she didn’t even lock the door. She has to call her baby daddy who was out to come open the door for us. He looked annoyed. We let the kids in I’m holding her daughter the entire time. I just tell her I’m going to call it a night and go home. So I’m on my way home its 11:44 she’s calling and texting “ im so sorry i feel it was such a bad night for you” I did answer her call bc I didn’t want her to feel i wasn’t answering due to how the night went. I feel there is a huge lack of consideration I don’t go out ever or treat myself so the fact that this was the night to do that and thats how it panned. In hindsight she could’ve had her babydaddy drop her to the restaurant with the kids and it could’ve saved me time and the extra drive. Tell me what you guys think about the situation.