How to stop obsessing over people?
So for context I kinda re-entered the dating scene in January and its been pretty bad for my mental health so far. Im a lesbian and I met this one girl back then we went on a few dates, she ghosted me, I didnt take it well. The thing I noticed when I was talking with her though was how much id just sit around and wait for her to message me. It was so consuming, she was all I would think about even at work. When she texted me it was great, when she didnt it was so draining. She was an avoidant and this was not a good combo for me.
I had to move recently so I kinda stopped trying to date but still had the app. This girl matched with me and we kinda casually talked for a few days then she mentioned she would have some free time for coffee. The coffee date went well and the next day she invited me over for a movie and ya that went well too, and I stayed the night.
Anyways its been two days since then and like I havent stopped thinking about her. I dont think she is avoidant like that last girl. She has a really important job and like has two kids so I dont think she is not messaging me on purpose. We have talked like everyday since then I guess today wasnt like the best though and its been nearly 12 hours since she texted me.
I havent like spammed her just sent her some memes but ya I cant help but think she must hate me, or im annoying her, or worse like shes gotten into an accident and thats why. I guess im spiraling. Idk. I wasnt like this last week before we met. Any advice?