Thought I found a genuine guy... nope, another asshole
So here's the breakdown- I (F18) and this guy we'll call Jackass (M18/19) just started talking. He followed my insta a couple weeks ago and has been very forward with me. He started messaging me a lot and with enthusiasm and he was talking to my friends about liking me. We had hung out a couple of times and I was really excited to find a genuinely good guy.
But there had been a few things that didn't sit with me right. After our first time hanging out one on one, we were headed back and he asked me if I wanted to come hang out at his room. Now, I am not interested in a fling, I want a committed relationship. Additionally, I am not looking to "do the deed" with anyone anytime soon. Especially not someone I just met and have hung out with only once 1 on 1 (and twice at all). I need to be in a relationship for a long time to trust someone enough for that. So I said no, I have some work I need to do so I'm gonna go back to my room and so we said goodbye. Kinda weird but idk, I wasn't really getting that kind of vibe from him but I could just be dense. That was just the start.
We continue texting a lot and Jackass is sending multiple texts, with emojis, and enthusiasm, exclamation marks- like I can actually understand the emotions. But he is being SOOOOOOO forward and any time I turn him down he just asks to do another thing. And I'm starting to get slight bad vibes like my intuition was going off- I wasn't so sure he was a good guy anymore. It felt too much and I just had a bad feeling in my gut. But I also haven't really had good men in my life to base things off of so I didn't know if this was just normal for a guy that likes someone.
I decided to talk to Jackass about how I felt things were moving really fast- it hadn't even been a week. Yesterday we got dinner, and I told him how I've been feeling and that I wanted to go slower. He was surprisingly chill about it and insinuated without directly saying that when he asked to hang out, he just meant like this- talking and getting to know each other not sex. Yeah, I still had a bad feeling after that.
Later that night, I was talking with some friends, let's call them Riley and Taylor. Riley had mentioned knowing Jackass and said he had ghosted a friend recently, but people can change, who knows. Then Taylor asked for Jackass's name and told me she knows him too. He's been talking to one of her friends, we'll call her Sarah.
We meet up with Sarah and HOLY MOLY I learned a lot. Turns out he's been talking to her for about the same time, and texting in the same manner (I showed her messages). Jackass and his girlfriend broke up WITHIN THE PAST WEEK. And even worse, it was THE DAY HE STARTED TEXTING ME! And even worse than that, the time he got dinner with us and was making eyes at me was the day BEFORE THEY BROKE UP!!!
Not only that, I also learned Sarah had mentioned to him that she'd have her room to herself soon in a flirty way and he said he'd definitely be taking advantage of that. Which, if that's what you're looking for okay, but that's not what I want AT ALL AND HES TALKING TO TWO OF US AT ONCE!!! AND STARTED FLIRTING WITH ME BEFORE BREAKING UP WITH HIS GIRLFRIEND!!! Gosh so much crazy shit. Even if all of that hadn't happened, if his last relationship ended that recently, there is no way to be moved on fully and ready for a healthy relationship. And I'm not trying to deal with all this bs.
Additionally Jackass had told Sarah that one of the examples where he knew him and his girlfriend weren't going to stay together was that she had been stressed out after a rough day and he offered to eat her out and she said no. Like what?!? So after hearing all that I think I've had enough. I guess I was dense at first but after hearing all this and talking with my friends, he was totally trying to get in my pants, and being a dishonest, two-timing asshole. I don't need or want that shit at all.
I'm looking for something I can do to get a little revenge. Sarah doesn't want to do anything unless if he does something worse, but I want something I can do to get a little revenge on my own. I'm sick of men getting away with shit like this and I wanna get back at him. Got any ideas?
TL;DR- A guy started pursuing me very enthusiastically but it turns out he was doing the same with another girl. He made multiple comments I didn't like and invited invited to come to his room after getting lunch together/ our first 1:1 hangout. He had also just broken up with his ex-gf the same day we started talking, and was flirting with me before that. The other person he was talking to doesn't want to do anything but I want some kind of revenge.