I don't know how to help my friend
/!\ Engilsh is not my first language.
I am a 18 yo girl and I am part a pretty big friend group (like 10 people)
One of my friends (Andrea) wasn't doing well for a while, she would isolate herself from the group at times and looked down. Recently Andra's best friend, Emily, revealed that Andrea was getting really anxious and depressed, and she wanted to tell us because it was a lot to handle for Emily alone (Andrea agreed)
.She constantly would have to confort Andrea during panic attacks, crying etc. She needed other people to help her.
We all tried to help Andrea, but it seems like she prefer when I am the one that confort her.
She resents Emily because theyre relationship became weird, because Emily is constantly worried for her they never talk like they did before. Emily tried to help her a little too much I think and now she has her own problems so she just needed space, but that is bad timing...
I gave Andra my full support but its becoming too much, she is constantly hiding to cry, she needs me to be there during the panic attacks, she hates when we have regular chit chat with the rest of the group because she don't have the energy (?) to join the conversation. She totally shutdown, leave brutally almost every day. She is constantly texting me but its just venting about the same things in a loop so idk what to tell her anymore. When I don't respond in time she deletes the messages, wich makes my feel crazy. She has seen two doctors, they are not doing much.
Have you ever been in Andrea shoes ? deconnected to everyone, unable to just chat with your friends ? What can I do for her ? Since Emily gave up I feel alone and useless...
I left out a lot, you can ask me if anything is missing. Thanks for your help !