I was talking to a guy who is a family friend.
My uncle is a narcissist and has been cheating on his wife. She idolizes him. He was involved with another woman and used to visit her regularly. I didn’t know about this at first. Later, he brought her and her 20-year-old son home and introduced them as “friends.” They started attending all our family functions.
I began talking to her son. He seemed very kind and idealistic someone who helps others, takes responsibility, and feels obligated to carry the burden as the older son. I noticed my uncle treated him poorly and was often rude to him, which made me feel empathy for him.
That’s when things started to change. He began messaging me every day, talking constantly, and sharing personal secrets. He would say things like, “If I wasn’t serious about you, why would I tell you my family secrets?”
He would also buy me a lot of things and insist on taking care of everything. If I asked for directions, he would say, “Why do you need that? I’ll take you. You don’t have to worry I’m the provider.”
About a year ago, I saw chats between him and his ex where they were exchanging snaps. I confronted him, saying he should have told me. I also found messages where he was flirting with another girl, telling her they could talk and maybe “create a bond.”
He even dedicated a movie to me, but asked that same girl to watch the same movie with him.
When I confronted him, he partially admitted it but then manipulated the situation, saying he only did it because I didn’t commit to him when he asked. He said he was scared, and that’s why he acted that way.
Whenever I tried to distance myself, he would beg me to stay. He would show up at my house, buy me things, and drive me places. He helped me with a medical checkup and bought me medicines, often saying, “I’ll handle it you don’t have to do anything on your own.”
A year later, during a trip with my uncle and his family, he flirted with his minor cousin.
After that, I blocked him everywhere. Now he is sending me pleading emails.
These are the kinds of messages he sends:
“Hey bubuu!!!
I’m not lying, I’ve been waiting for your message since morning!
I kept checking my email again and again, and it only made the pain of being away from you worse!!
I promise I will always stand by you. 🥹💖🫂
I can’t even live, sleep, or eat properly without you. Please give me one chance. 🥺
I promise to improve, to heal, and to never bring even a tear to your eyes.
I promise loyalty, respect, and to become the kind of person you want me to be. 🫂💖😖🤞🙏🙇♂️❤️
Please don’t leave me. Just stand with me I will show you real change. 🫂💖😖🤞🧿
I love you. You’re the only person I want in my life, and I will do everything for us. 🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹