Housemate whose room is below me keeps sending me messages asking me to keep it down - sometimes passive aggressively imo - and it’s because the floorboards are very thin and creaky. I walk around quite lightly and often am consciously trying to walk extra soft at night, but I just go to bed 30-60 mins later than she does and need to move around a bit before bed (getting in pjs, clearing my bed, using the loo, maybe packing bag for work or putting things away I’ve been using). Her messages are usually 11.40pm - 12.15am, and she’s said things like “can you please go to bed or be quieter”, “please be quiet I’m dying”, “please stop stomping around”, “do you mind tiptoeing”
Recently I put her messages thread in archive cos it was stressing me out getting messages like this just as I’m trying to wind down and feeling she’s angry at me when it feels like there’s nothing I can do to not make noise.
So she confronted me in person and said it seems like I don’t give a shit I’m keeping her up and I need to be more considerate of others. Am I the ass hole? Since this talk I’ve been trying to go to bed earlier to avoid making noise late but it feels harsh that I have to not be awake after 11.30pm or be told I’m inconsiderate. I naturally sleep around 11pm-1am, and of course occasionally come home late